No Matter What, Everything Happens How It Is Meant To

If something is supposed to happen, it will just happen

Right now, right at this present moment in time, there is much afoot in the cosmos.

Whatever it is that has been the wish of your own Soul and whatever it is that is right and good for each of us is what is materializing now. All that time that we each spent with our hearts broken, our Souls shattered and our lives seemingly left in disarray was not spent in vain but rather and only in preparation for what is now and in fully forceful manifest.

And no matter what it is that we try to do about it, even if we feel like what we wanted just two or three months ago we no longer want, at least technically, we are now seeing. While we will not see it for what we have seen it as in our minds and our thoughts, we will see it in a manner that is not only conducive to each of our own healing but also we stand to bear witness to our own power and that of the Power of our Own Creativity when speaking in terms of manifesting our highest and greatest lives.

When I look back at what it was that I thought I wanted and see it in relation to what it is that I now have upon me, I find that just a year ago I wanted something similar, but was not very clear on what it was that I actually wanted. When I look back, I find that at that time I was not supposed to be clear on the goal because at that time I was sitting in the middle of the worst tumult that I had ever been in the middle of, in every area of my life but one - and that one area simply and only was the idea that I did not give up the dream, that I did not give in to my fears of failure, of not being good enough to see to it that I would have a far better life now than I did back then. And I do. I have a great life now. I have new friends who I adore, and I have a better grip on my own reality and what little needs to be done with this part of my life and with the creation and "slipping into" of the second half of my thus far very storied life.

Yet, no matter how many times I look back at that picture, and no matter how many times I am stuck in the feeling of disbelief of what has become of my life thus far, I know that this is how it is meant to be, that this is what I can deal with and can offer the world right now, and this is just perfect for the time being. I know,like we should all Know and Believe, that right now is the catalyst, that Now in this moment - this is what matters, not the picture of what I see as things to come for me, but this moment where I have absolute control over what I think and do and desire. This is the thing,t he concept that not a lot of people are willing to accept about reality - all we have is right now. There are a few people with whom I hold a closeness who say this to me all the time, that they can't see how this all came to be but oh well, it is what it is and apparently this is as it is meant to be.

To all of you who, just this morning even, told me, chatted to me, texted me, emailed me, telepathically sent to me (LOL)...no matter what it is that you had planned, don't fret about the outcome. The outcome is not here yet. Even though you would love to be able to Know for sure that what you see with your mind's eyes is what you will see when it is manifested into your reality and your daily life, I promise you now that what you see in your mind is only an example of the awesomeness that is going to unfold into your lives as time passes by. I have told you all plenty of times that this time in our lives and during this period of growth and evolution, that what you want is coming to you, is better than what you think it is, and that once you wrap your heads around it and accept that what is coming to you is something that not even your creative mind could have come up with, you will know, too, that when I have told you that "belief is everything," or whatever is close to it...I Meant...and I promise you that you will see it...all of  it...

For now, though, just enjoy your Time on The Path....the Journey is what matters, and what you learn on the way to the Goal...the Goal is simply just another comma in a sentence in the story called "Your Life..."

When you realize how true that is, the question "What are you going to write on this new sheet of paper called your life? What's your new story, Lovely One?" no longer will strike fear in you, but rather and only, creativity...

So...What's your story, doll? Only you can write it !!

I LOVE YOU ALL !
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved

Be Open To Things Happening Differently

We can plan for anything...thing is, God might have a different plan

Life is funny. We plan for it, but most of the time, it turns out differently than we had imagined, let alone planned.

It was not my plan to learn the fineries of the inner workings of the Soul, and neither was it ever my intention, when first I breathed the barely whispered intention of "Use Me, God, For Your Purpose," to not be dually self-employed in the areas of dance and writing. It was not ever my plan to be and do with my own life what it is that I have simply just become mad-cap in Love with as a person whose life and mission is centered on helping others to find their own Truths. My life was planned out by me to become the greatest choreographer whose best-selling non-fiction would hit the stores worldwide and my life was planned by me that I would have done things not in the manner, given my life circumstances throughout the almost entirety of my adulthood, as I have since I was 19. I am now 42 and it is safe to say that the life I planned is so not the life that I have created and continue to create for myself.

And this is what I have to say to anyone right now regarding what they think is happening to their lives, and make sure of it that you are aware that I am told these things about the lives of people with whom I have the beautiful chance to work with, sometimes all day long - you may plan what you want to happen in your life, but you may not plan or plan on those same things happening for those who are a part of your life just like you do not know if you will happen upon a new part of the plan that was not planned on. I hear it, read it, am privy to seeing it sometimes in the most unlikely places that even if we have a great plan and good intentions, if God needs us elsewhere, it is not our plan anymore, but God's.

At first I thought that I was being told these things...the things about peoples' lives not being what they planned on them being at this time...because the people who say these things to me the most are the ones with whom I share a lot of time, heart and Soul with. I was wrong, but not in that these people who are close to me continue to say it, but because it is the permeating "thing" that I am currently working through with a whole lot of people. The ongoing and growing sentiment that I hear from most of the people who seek my skills is that their lives were not planned out the way that their lives have thus far turned out.

Well, that is because your plans included nothing of your growing, or at least you didn't plan on growing, and your plans did not include the things that you have grown to become at this point. We can never really know what a baby is going to look like when it is born - all we can do is guess. This same thing can be said of the plans that we make, that we hope we can stick to, that we want to see to fruition, and when it is that we find ourselves, again and again in that same place we were the last time we went through the motions and we see that not a lot has changed in that one place, it is at that very moment that we should be inclined to check if those same plans made prior to right now will still fit into our lives. What we never think about is the idea that we grow, and we keep growing, and just like a child grows out of his or her shoes, we will also grow out of the ideas that the plans we made for our lives just a little while ago are SO not in line with the life that we are living now. If your life is anything like my life you will notice that everything you have asked for has come to fruition.

The faces and the tiny minute details might not be what you thought or what you saw, but there it is - the life that you planned, only better.

And you have to admit - it is a lot better than what you thought it was going to be, isn't it?

Yep...so is mine...

I don't want to tell anyone to not plan anything - that is terribly irresponsible. Without a plan we are not following our own Path, as paradoxical as that sounds, but it is the truth. Our Plans are only markers that we want and desire newer and better things in our lives and in the lives of those we love and care for the most. However, God is funny in the way that our wishes of the Soul are brought into Being.

When we Know that God is Guiding us we can also trust that nothing can go wrong. Sure, it might take a little more time, and absolutely you might not have those same players in the drama of your life, but the fact remains and you know it is true because it is the truth in my life as well as in the lives of those closest to me...
the changes, yes, were uncomfortable, but, I am so much better off and in a way better place now than I have been in a very, very long time.

And ya know what else ???

It all is Divinely Timed and Planned...so wrap your brain around that one, lose your fears and don't think about what is not the same as how you planned but instead, think about how awesome your Power really is!

Cool...right?

Riiiiiiiiight !! Haha!!

I LOVE YOU ALL !
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved

Just Chill...

Relax...it's just You Growing...

When we think about a storm we automatically think of the destruction that it can cause, but what we never think about is that when it rains, and pours, there is a cleansing going on. 

We can think of the things and situation in our lives which are not of our own preference as being "bad," or we can see them all as a hint into our inner world. I know that my own hints have been about self-worth, about believing in the gifts which were mine upon my conception, which were in manifest from the beginning of Life. I know that there is work to do still, that there is much to be handled and much more these days to be very incredibly grateful for, and anymore now I find that being grateful walks hand in hand with also being gracious.

The Calm Before the Storm is meant, at least for some of us, to be the thing that prompts us to recognize the things that hurt us and break us down, things that are meant as a means for us to learn through our own set measure about what we can handle, what we are okay with on the Soul's level, what it is that we need, and who it is that we want to spend our time on and with. When we reach a point in our lives where it seems like all we have to offer is somehow not enough, take a step back and think about who it was that told you that awful lie, who it was that talked you into believing that garbage, because now and forever, I promise you that you are enough.

You Are Enough

You are good enough, miraculous enough, talented and beautifully magical enough to be able to see your Life the way that you want to see it. 

Yes, it will take work, but it will not take (ack!) sacrifice. Sacrifice is such an ugly word when thinking in terms of the way that we feel about ourselves. I have heard that word far too many times in my life for me to even bother with thinking that somehow, it still belongs in my vocabulary. I prefer to think of that word now and anymore as being replaced by three others - "Let Go Of."

Expectation is the thing that we must let go of, because with it comes the seeds of disappointment and with it comes the idea that we can Know what is best for everyone involved in a given situation when the truth of us is that we totally and so do NOT!! We cannot "call it" when it comes to other people and their life needs and desires, and we cannot try to know what it is that we need unless we are more inclined to STOP worrying about what someone else needs in their lives so that we can feel better about our lives. We cannot continue the madness of trying to get another person or another set of people to look at things through our eyes because they can't. There are not a whole lot of people who can...not a whole lot of people are willing to stop talking, start listening, and start thinking about how the story that we are being told by that person is somehow also applicable to our own in some way.

Yet we cannot go through our lives hoping to be everything to someone else or a few someone else's before we can be everything to ourselves. I know that in my line of work while it might be one thing that I am available to help aid the coming up with new thoughts about a thing, I am not able to help others help their own lives if what I will do is also expect that these people who I am charged with to do everything that I tell them will work for them. I don't know that it will. All I do know is that when I am "given" a suggestion for them that the most I can offer is to tell them when I have been "told."

It would be hard on my Soul if I worried that my clients are not following my advice - that is not mine to deal with. I am only here to offer a hand up in life and for me to think that I know what is best for someone else is also like my thinking that what applies in my own life will apply everywhere else and for everyone else as well.

We need to just chill when it comes to the things that we want for others and more, just chill when it comes to the things that we also and dearly want for our own lives. We are of no good help to anyone, namely ourselves, when we are not willing to be open to things being as they are meant to if we bothered not to Lord over others, bothered to let people do as they will, bothered to see that sometimes when we are giving other people our soothing words and our Love, that sometimes the messages that we offer them are truly and also meant for us, too.

So when it comes to our wanting certain things and events and people and situations in our lives, sometimes we just need to trust that we are good enough, that we are strong enough, and that for our very selves, are more than enough to bring our Lives into line with the dreams which have been in manifest when we each were just a twinkle in our earth father's eyes, but a grand component of the Grander Scheme of Things in the eyes of our Father Who Art in Heaven...

Just Sayin'...

So when you think about it in terms that I have laid out here, it prompts us to ask the question of "What makes me not just chill and trust that I am safe in the arms and the Spirit of the Divine?"

I Love You All !!

ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved

Cleaning Windows

Things Change For Us When We Choose to Change Our Perspective

There have been a lot of life-altering changes these last few weeks and the majority of those changes have not materialized for a lot of us, but for some of us, namely those of us who practice daily the act of seeing things from a different perspective, those changes can be seen already.

For weeks I and many others like me have behaved like petulant children stomping their feet to get their way, and by stomping our feet I do not mean literally. I mean that there are things and events which have taken place over the last few weeks that have been life-changing to say the least, and while those things might not be life-changing in the sense that others can see it, those things are life changing in the sense that we ourselves are able to see them. When we choose to place our perspective someplace else and totally from a place which is not the place we started out at, we are also choosing change, meaning that we are also willing to go with that same energetic flow which makes it known that no matter what, no matter how far into the dirt we dig our heels, and no matter how often we proverbially try to swim against the tide of Life, no matter what, change is inevitable. What is also not inevitable is that once it is that we realize what is happening within us, we will also see those same things and events happening outside of ourselves.

The things that we used to think, and the ways that we used to follow through on those thoughts have been changed. And when I say changed, I mean markedly so, and the way that most of us have handled it all is with Grace and Ease, which is exactly as it should be.

Cleaning Windows

So yesterday I am in the middle of a coaching session and I get a text from my very good friend who lives in the southern part of the United States, and her text to me is these three words  :"GO CLEAN WINDOWS." Now, understand that this friend literally, at her part time night job, cleans windows. So I thought it was her being her usually silly self when I get yet another text from this very same friend that reads "NO REALLY- MAPU GO CLEAN WINDOWS AND MAKE SURE THAT IT IS CLEAN ENOUGH TO SEE YOUR REFLECTION IN IT..." and so me being me asks if it matters that I don't want to clean a house window and is it cool to clean my car windows. Of course, yes was the answer, and by the time I got myself outside to clean said car windows, I went from only cleaning the front windshield to cleaning all the windows, inside and out. Of course, in the dark of the night the windows would look very clean...but when I got up this morning the truth was different.

While my windows were much cleaner than they were, there were streaks left by the newspaper which I used to dry the windows when they were wet. The newspaper left behind the typical inky streaks that it would anyway, but I did not bother with going over them a second time until this morning. Even though the windows were not as clean as I thought they were, they were, by far, cleaner, and suddenly I understood the symbolism of the Clean Windows...and it makes sense that I would care to clean the windows in the car because I spend a lot of coaching hours in that car - it is my rolling office.

In the same light, it is presumptuous of us to believe that no one but we ourselves can change, and while the changes in others with whom we share closeness may not involve us and while it is that we might not see our own changes, eventually we surely and absolutely will be told that there have been changes made by us. As long as we are not looking for it, change will happen for us - this is a Universal Promise. Everything evolves. Everything, with time, becomes what it is meant to be, and everything, with time, also turns into what it is meant to be as the highest good for all people involved, even people who are minimally involved. The change in our perspective raises our energy level and that vibration is felt everywhere...our change in perception of a thing literally changes things in a physical sense.

And if you don't believe that this is the Truth, try it. Don't sit there thinking about all the things that have already gone "other than good" and don't think of what could happen. Think only thoughts that make you have feelings of happiness, of contentment, of how Much we are so very Loved.

When we are dwelling on the things that have happened, and when we think that there is just nothing more important for us at this moment in time, we must retrain ourselves to actively look for the good in the things that make us mad and break out hearts, must think in the sense that the things, situations and most of all, people, who we think we have lost have really only realized themselves that this lesson with us is over and that truly they are not going away, but really and only making room for our next Teacher.

When we choose to look beyond what the Ego wants us to see we also choose to no longer limit ourselves and who we really are, and I have said it over and over again...

Who we Each Are really is a gigantic, monumental big deal. All you really need to know is realize your place in the Grander Scheme of Things and you will know that the All That Is In Manifest is Being Created and that you need not fret but only to relax into the idea that while your heart and soul may have been through the harshest times of learning thus far, you are primed and ready for the Universal and Divinely Timed and Planned Events to occur for, to, with and through You...which means that indeed, you are a markedly important part of this Lifetime, no matter what you are choosing at this moment to Believe.

I LOVE YOU ALL !!
Rox...

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved

     

"When it's time to change it's time to rearrange..." ("The Brady Bunch," circa 1970's)

We are aware when changes are about to happen, or more, when change needs to happen

I write much about the things happening in the lives of the people with whom I share much of my time. Those people, on the outside, are my friends, but on the inside, are part of my own awakening in Spirit and in my own Truth. The reason I say much of them is not only because they are the very heart and soul of my very life at this time, but also because they were the change I dearly wanted to see in my own life. I wanted to have more people who are just like me in my life, and I left it up to Spirit to choose them for me, to choose how to bring them to my life, and to give to me those lessons I so badly needed and still need for my own growth. Through them I was given the chance to see my very Self and through them I was able to learn what it was and what it is to be very dearly Loved and Cherished and it is through them that I am also able to put forth my own measure of Aloha, my own Soul's measure of Love.

I knew that I needed to reach out to people, because for so very long a time I was sheltered in the idea that I would make friends and that they would go away and that that is just how life is, but I know that I lied to myself. That is not the truth - at least it is not my truth because my truth tells me that when I make friends they become my family, and when we are family we are there, permanently. And this is what I asked for - permanence.

While I know that with the few really great friendships I already had that I'd had enough in terms of having a few pals, what I longed for was the sense of community and family that was gone from my life in the manner in which my Soul so badly needed it. My Soul needed other like Souls which would not be there to parent my already over-parented inner-child, and my Soul needed other like Souls simply so that it would know for sure that there was an entire population of people who were out there seeking the same thing that I was - to be a part of something bigger than myself, to be a part of a group that would Know me before they got to know me, and most of all, to have people in my life whose motives are pure and without judgment or expectation. I had to learn how to not expect people to react or respond to me in the way I expected them to, and I had to learn to appreciate the ones who were still here, and I had to do a lot of Soul searching to find out what it was that I needed in terms of Love.

While there were a lot of potential suitors in that mix, the only thing that I sought out was the permanence that comes with knowing that I was part of a group of people who Loved me, who want the best for me, and who are also seeking their own higher truths.

And like nothing at all, we all found each other, and some of the ones who are still tantamount in importance to me are there, still, and I love them as much as I always have, which is with everything in me.

I chose to no longer be lonely, and I chose to be part of a group which needed me as much as I needed them, and the only reason that we need each other is because we are there to be a part of each others' lives, and that alone is worth all the loneliness that I went through just to get where I am now. I knew for many years that I really needed to change my own Life and that I would need company on the way there. I now share my Path with those who mean the most to me, and yes, you all know who you are !!

I Love You All!!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved

Trust Who You Are and Everything Else just tends to happen for You

Trust that Who You Are Is Okay to Be and that What you are doing, no matter what, is right for your own personal Path...


Lots of us live under the microscopic glare of other peoples' judgments on us. Many of us adhere and believe what it is that other people have judged us as without giving so much as a reason to really ponder why it is that anyone would have a reason to judge someone else for any reason at all. Many of us have graduated past the idea that what someone used to be, they are still, and more often than that, the majority of us choose to believe what we think is the truth of another person far and long before we bother to even find out for ourselves if what we are assuming is right.

We can assume anything we want to, but the truth of the matter is that until we bother to find out anything on our own and by ourselves we will not know what the truth is because we will have already formed our own truth in our heads and we will, like always, follow that belief.

When we choose to not see a person for how far along they have come in their own growth and we forget that people have motives other than the ones that we think they have, and we impart that inclination, that judgment, onto them as though our own truth about a matter is the only truth and without bothering to ask a question, this is when we have sunk those people we love to the level that we ...WE feel comfortable with them being at. People grow Spiritually all the time. I do it. You do it. Everyone does it. We do not have the right to impart onto someone else our own judgment of the way that they are living their lives. When we do so, it minimizes them to the point where we feel comfortable but not really where they may really be in their growing, in their healing, in their very own lives.

So, the next time that any one of us decides that because something is different than what we thought it was or thought it should be, the greatest thing that you can do, not only for the people who you are concerned about, but more, for you, is to simply let them be who they are and not worry about who we have not given them credit for having become.

When we are not willing to let people be who they are, and not willing to see past what they were, and we apply who they were and what they were to who they are and what they are at this point in time, we are not only not giving them their due credit for having grown, we are also not giving our own selves credit for our own growth, and that isn't a good thing. When we keep people in the same manner in our own souls that they may have been in the past, we are impeding them because we expect them to be all that they were rather than seeing them for the beautiful thing they have become.

I am bad at this, and there are a lot of other people who are just as bad, if not worse, than I am at it, but it remains the same that no matter what, we have to let other people do their thing because in doing so we release that worry caused by the Ego that tells us that the people we care about the most do not need the lessons which are presenting themselves as they have. We do not know better than someone else does about their own lives. I cannot cause for another person the quelling of the fire which rages within them from the ignition caused by a mistrust which resides within us all, and it is a raging fire that, while it is sparked by Love, it is also fueled by worry, and when it comes to other peoples' lessons and learning, the only thing that we are meant to do is support them in their growth .

I Love You All !!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

You Ought To Know...

Today, Know that you are Loved...

So...so sometimes I post the "morning mana'o" after the morning time has passed, but I like doing things on "Hawaiian Time," meaning that I will likely be late, but always, I will be where I am meant to be.

It has been a very harrowing last few days for all of us. There is not one person who I know who is particularly close to me who has not, at some point, even today, gone through something that has made them just want to fall apart in to a mess of tears.

Let it be well known right now that if you are not aware of it, you are very Loved. While it might seem to you that there is no one on the planet who loves you, that there is no relief for you to look forward to, the most beautiful thing that any one of us should never forget is that above all, We Are Very Loved. Yes, there are people who are in our lives who are the very heart and soul of us (and you all know who you are when speaking in terms of the people who I am closest to and with whom I share the most time and heart and soul with...I Love You, Guys! Thank you for being there for me, too!!), and yes, you can guarantee that at any given time that each and all of us is adding to that list of people. And while you are at it you can feel free to add me to that list, as well.

Today, Know for sure and without any reservation that you are dearly very Loved.

Human beings, many of us, still, have no inkling of the fact that no matter what, not one of us is without Love in our lives. We tend to take it personally when someone disagrees with what we so hold opinion of, and we get upset when we find out that the things we wanted in our lives are not meant to be. Yet, when we think about it further, we find out that if we just stop for a moment and pause for the lesson at hand, we will find out that at the end of the lesson there was only Love to be learned, to be had, and to be Known.

We cannot make it through life without Love in some manner in our lives. It doesn't have to be the love between two who are romantically involved, and it doesn't have to be parental Love, it just is what it is, and what it is can only be referred as the purest, most highest form of Aloha that any one of us will ever really and truly Know.

So with that much known, know. too, that no matter what, you are very, very Loved.

I LOVE YOU ALL!!

Rox...

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

We can only do for ourselves...

For our own sake, do for You

We cannot save other people. No matter what we want to believe and no matter what we think and no matter what we are trying to talk ourselves into, we can only save or do anything at all for ourselves.

We silly humans don't understand this, or maybe we do and we just cannot bother with thinking past the idea that we have to Do in order to Be. No, we don't. In fact if we each paid attention to the things and the situations in our own singular lives we would find evidence of this one fact - when it is that we have started our trek to wholeness by walking with ourselves, all the pieces that would have been in place for others to have help from us sort of just happen. When we leave things alone that we know we should, and when we choose to stop obsessing about those things, and when we realize, after we have become so exhausted from the mental bruisings we have experienced which led to our own Spiritual ailment and in turn which led to our physically manifesting the things that we didn't want to happen, life happens just to fall in to place.

We cannot do for others what they refuse to do for themselves, and we cannot expect that that which we want so badly for them will happen because the frank truth is that they may not see things the same way that we do, and when it is that we find that this is the truth that has not changed, we can allow ourselves to no longer wish for anyone else but ourselves the kind of healing that we can only bring to us, through us or perhaps through another person, and that healing is Divine because it is the Soulful type of healing and is the kind that, even though it hurts at the onset, it is the thing that brings us the Wisdom and the Strength that we all each so badly need, sometimes just to make it through the day.

Make it through the day

Make it through the day, guys, and try to do so without the idea that you have to do anything to make anyone else comfortable about anything at all. It is common and even arrogant of us human types to not so much want something better for others, namely those who we love, but more than that, we want to save everyone because somewhere within us there is this inclination toward our thinking and believing that we can save anyone but our own selves.

Make it through the day, guys, because if you don't bother with looking at the things that dearly need to be seen you will find out that all along we have been moving quite nicely toward a goal, that we have been stopped a few times along the way but for not much more than to smell the roses.

Make it through your day, guys, without the feeling that you have to do anything more than simply Be You and to simply do what you must in order to make your self available and ready for the things that are headed toward each of our lives in a collective manner.

I Love You ALL!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

Things I found out along the trek on The Scenic Route

I won't call it learning the hard way. I will just call it learning

I won't call it a harsh lesson, but I will call it a very good one and one which was well worth learning. We can never be too sure of the truth of other people unless and until we are willing to see in ourselves the thing in us which they reveal for us and about us.

I found out that...I have no reason for all the insecurities and that what I felt all these years was the insecurities of other people projected onto me, that when I want something I have to go through stuff with people so that I also know what I do not want...and I find that the things that I do not want are the very things that have taught me much. The most important of those things is that I now know that I will not do things with or for anyone whose measure of Soul is no where near mine. I cannot. I will not. I will no longer be giving away the best of me...no no no...I can't. I have been giving away the part of me that was for me, and I am no longer willing to allow the buffalo to trample my Tahitian Black Pearls of wisdom, of sense of self, of all that I am , all that I have ever been...

It isn't that I saw in myself things in these other people that I wanted to see there, but that I saw what I wanted to deny in myself. When I thought about it all more, I found out about me and I found out that yes, indeed, I am worth so much to myself, to anyone, than to be just one of the crowd. Where I thought I would be broken up the most I was not, and where I thought and believed about myself that this is what anyone deserves to be and more, that I believed that in a round about way, the things and events and people and ways of being that came to me just in these last 5 months alone have been harrowing, to say the least, but now that I am standing on this side of the road, so to speak, and seeing where I have been and knowing where I am going...well, it ain't so bad.

I see things in myself now, not that I look at and say "Well, I was okay with it so that must make it okay, period," but more now than ever in my lifetime I am prone to saying "Oh hell no!" I learned that I am not willing to take less than I deserve, and if what I deserve is to learn well, then that much I know I did. And I know that I am a great student - Dean's List 8 times in college - and by that alone I am told that I am somehow as brilliant as no one else will tell me I am but that I know, for real, for sure, that I have always been. Call me Vain, Egotistical, Arrogant, but it sure doesn't feel that way to know these things about me, and it is no one's place to judge me on it. I know these things about me, and I know that I needed to go through what I did so that I would know these things...ahhhh...Loveliness is formed in the most ugliest ways sometimes, but it is worth it...I was worth it...

The things that we see in others are very much alive in us. Whether we want to look at those things or not is our option, but whether or not we choose to change the way that we see who we are is up to us. I was shown, quite blatantly, in fact, and even though I didn't want to look at it, my very own fears of inadequacy, of those ways of being that scream at the world that I am somehow not good enough to have what I am most deserved of, what I am most desirous of, and it isn't what I thought it was, those things that I want and desire.

I say much of things Divinely Timed and Planned, and in my case lately, I am being shown those things which have been brought to me in the most Divinely Timed and Planned way and more than that, it seems, overnight I have also been granted the pass, if you will, to see that indeed, if this were a test, of anything at all, I passed. In fact, I passed with flying colors. I, overnight, figured out that there are things about me that used to be true, but those things are not the truth of me anymore, and while it took me a trek on the Scenic Route, the fact remains that I learned something of value for myself and that anymore now the world in which I live seems to be a bit brighter for me now. That is what this New Moon in Libra was about, at least for me, to bring about the balance that I was so very desirous of, and here it is.

I can "See" my Self, finally, and it is a brilliant Self, and it only took me 42 years to get here, but here I am -bright, shiny, maybe not new, but I feel that way. I feel that way because throughout the night I was given insights as to who  I am for real, and who I am for real is so far removed from the thing that I thought I was, that I thought I wanted, than I thought, period. I was told that once I got here, which is where I needed to be, that I would be not so well inclined to move in a backward motion, because, in short, I am no longer needed where I am no longer needed, and in that manner, I am alive.

I am alive in the idea that I am not now nor shall I ever be and neither have I been willing to be, the one person who people can come to anymore when they are seeking energetic renewal without the idea that there needs to be some sort of exchange in that manner - no longer, I find, is my Soul willing to be convenient, and no longer is it okay for the walking-the-crust-of-the-earth-me to be, either. You see, there are only so many times in life that we are given to learning, and this one was a good learning experience for me, even though it was painful from time to time. None the less, with a little help from my friends and even more from my Guides, here I am...

Here I am, having been through a whole lot in a relatively short period of time, and here I am, completely new and feeling as though I came through this unscathed. And I say it this way because the choices made by me in these last 8 hours have been the kind that the Universe has been waiting for me to make and while She waited I learned, like the good little student that I am and have always been, that not only am I worth way more than I am giving Me credit for, but that I am way more than only what meets the eyes, and that alone is worth what little itty bitty bit of pain it was that I had to experience. When I think about it a bit more, it wasn't really pain as much as it was a lesson.

I found out that while I may be who I am, who I am does not fit all of the people, all of the time. I am obscure in the way that I see things, abstract in my thoughts, and while that might not be okay for a lot of people, it is the only way that I am able to be for me and I'll tell you this much - I won't apologize for it. I won't be wrong for who I am or wanting what I want and Desire and I learned in these last few hours the beauty that is moving forward.

We cannot make other people see us for who we truly are, warts and all, and it is especially the truth in my case, gigantic Soul, and all. When the question was asked of me as to the reason why I tend to give off the impression of being "intimidating," it was at that point that I needed to ask one of my Spirit Teachers why it is that people seem to turn away from me right when they are beginning to see their own Light. His answer was brilliant and right and hoped for and confirming...he told me that it was not me, not my issue to deal with and not for me to hang on to anymore. He told me that I would be doing myself no favors by continuing to see to it that other people see what is so blatantly there. It isn't my responsibility to be the Light in the darkness of those who are preferring the comfort of what they believe is the way for them because of one reason or another. It isn't my bag to carry if someone else just cannot see me for who I really am, and more, if they are seeing me for who I really am and cannot figure out the reason why they are both drawn and repelled.

Whatever it is that they are feeling, that part no longer matters, because I woke up knowing for sure that this is the right Path, that I have learned, and that yay me...the best is yet to come!!

When you wake up ...I mean really wake up to Who You Are and Your Own Truths...the world is a much, much kinder place to be in...

I Love You All !!
ROX


Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

This time is meant for stopping and smelling the roses...

When we see our lives unfolding as they are meant to, it is wise to Be in our Lives as much as possible, not to try to get more than we already have, but simply and only to appreciate what is already there for us.

Too many of us whose lives and life's work are connected to the Spiritual side of Life like to go out into this world and tell people that what we want we can have, that what we need we already have, and that it is easy for us if we just focus. What we are not so great at, at least a lot of us, is knowing what we want is ours, is in manifest, and is everything that we hope for it to be, but also that what we want requires that we be willing to allow it to Become what it is meant to be.

We want to behave as though we have the answers for everyone when a lot of the time we do not even have those answers for ourselves! And we have the nerve to believe that we think we know what is best for everyone else. We don't. When we are given a situation that we must get ourselves through and that situation is markedly rife with pain and heartache the only thing that we can see is that pain and that heartache. While we know that if we stepped back and thought more about the entirety of a thing rather than only our tiny piece of that thing that what would happen is we would be shown symbolically where we are at, we want to see the evidence of our growth, of our thoughts, and the manifestation of our Desires right there in our face and we want to see it NOW...

What, did you forget that there was going to be work involved in this?

No one likes to work, no one. We like to think that what we do for a living as being just a part of our lives and not truly a part of our Path.(It is...no, really...but that is for the other blog). We want to believe that the Law of Attraction works like a magic genie in a bottle when truly it is more you and your energy and the work put into that manifestation that brings it all into form. Do not take truly and as truth that you get what you want just like that. You do not. I do not. We will not, because always there is a lesson contained within it. We might be seeking answers that require our involvement being much bigger than what we thought. When the energy which we think is meant as someone else's lesson about thing is all our own, and when we think we are the ones who is teaching anyone anything, ultimately we find out that what we were doing was reflecting off of other people that energy that belongs to us and more than that, we are being given what we asked for and lots of times we do not even realize it.

...we do not even realize it...

If it is that we have been desirous of a thing or a situation, we do not know it until we are in the middle of it that we are learning about ourselves and what it is that our Soul needs. Our Ego needs way too much for our human beingness to be able to help it or satiate it. Our Ego serves us with the lesson that we need, and our Soul is the part of us that is rewarded for those lessons. When we are able to deal with a thing, when we can accept what it is about ourselves that we see in someone else, no matter what it is and no matter if we want to believe it, when it materializes for us that is when we find out what we are energetically made of. Collectively we have all asked for some rest, and when we did so we did so with the intention in mind that what we wanted to have in our lives we wanted to also have a sense of permanence to it. Things that require the involvement of other people at deeper levels than only what we see are the things that we most need to accept, to learn about, to understand how it relates to our lives singly and collectively, and then we need to trust that what we are seeing in front of our eyes physically is a manifestation of what it is that we have felt within our Souls for a lot longer than we care to believe.

And belief is part of the Stopping and the Smelling of the proverbial roses in this whole Spiritual adventure we are all on.

Stop to smell the roses without the fear that you are somehow going to get stung by the slings and arrows of what might happen...

Am I the only person who thinks that people should be less afraid of what might happen? I know all about this demon....the one that tells us that we should get ourselves prepared, "just in case." My friend Melody Fletcher, who is the creator of the Deliberate Receiving Blog, tells us in one of her blogs that when we prep ourselves for the worst that we should expect the worst because already in our minds we have created that thought that tells us things are going to go badly and that since we are such "smart" humans that we had better prepare for it all or else we might get our heart broken again over something...something that would not have turned out badly had we just opted to go with the flow of things and let them happen rather than prepping ourselves for that one thing to not happen the way it needs to.

I won't lie about it, but I do this a lot still, and I know the meaning of stopping to smell the roses in my life, and Melody is RIGHT !!

I know now that I have to just let things blossom, that if I want to see what I am most Desirous of in every area of my Life, I have to go with my gut instead of my rationale, have to believe it before I see it, and I know that doing things this way also prompts me to ponder certain evidences that tell me things, that give me my answers, that make it known that what I truly Desire the most is absolutely Becoming and is Becoming in a way that not even my own Piscean ability to dig into something deeply to analyze what is before me - and any good, well-learned Piscean will tell you that when we do like Pisces are meant to...which is to be a good Fish and swim with the flow instead of being like a Salmon trying to swim upstream against the Flow of Life. When we choose to "go with the flow" we find a grandness of Soul in the little things, in the things that, if we bothered to look a bit more closely at them, would show us the smaller yet vitally important pieces of the thing that is in manifest.

ALL parts of who we are depend on our being able to ponder our own magnificence, even if that magnificence is contained in the not-so-magnificent. When we see a thing as always Being Whole but also as constantly Evolving into the Most Highest Best that that thing or situation our limited thinking can handle, that is when we Know, too, that whatever it is that is in manifest for us that is taking what we want to call as being its "sweet time," is Being Created for Us in the very most wonderful way that we human beings cannot figure out with our own limited human thinking. When we can let go of what it is that we see with our minds eyes as being permanently as it is, that is when the magic happens for us because that said same magic happens within us and changes us ...permanently.

So when you are ready to blow a gasket, or ready to have words with someone over what it is that our Ego is pretending is the most important thing about something, stop for a moment and think about just how large the size of the thing or the situation is that we are intending and accordingly deal with it from that perspective.

When we can see our thoughts and the Desires of our Souls as being as valuable in manifest as we know we will see them when they have actually manifested, then is when we will actually feel as though it is on its way, no matter what it is. When we have a clue about a thing and when we can accept that we only know about it what we know about it and that we do not know the entirety of the thought or the thing, that is when we have begun the process of the slow yet sweet manifestation of the dreams residing within our Souls and the heartbeat and more, the Promise which is only that which is Universal Love.

Stop and smell the roses, guys...I promise you won't get stung!

I Love You All!!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

Dance to Your Own Drum Beat

Drumming is the heartbeat of humanity

It had been some months since I'd participated in Drum Circle. If you are not familiar with Drum Circle, think of all those times that you have been to the beach for a beach party and your pals have with them their stringed instruments and along comes your uncle, we'll call him Roland, who brings not only his washtub bass (no kidding...and the dude still has his!!) but also he brought with him bongo drums, and someone else brought a conga drum, and then people like me, who bring with them everywhere they go their own drum. In my case, that drum is the drum which travels with me everywhere. It is my 'ipu heke, and not just any 'ipu heke, but the very one which will travel with me to Hawai'i, to my Auntie Kalei, with the other teachers and some haumana and a few good friends, to climb to the top of the volcano and to be initiated back into my own Spirit, into my own Soul, and to welcome, officially and Spiritually and in the very most Kanaka Maoli way, to the world the newer version of me.

Drum Circle...

Just the very words, "Drum Circle" will evoke in all of us thoughts and visions of Native Americans in traditional Spiritual clothing, out beneath the wide sky, surrounded by Love and Nature, and sharing with one another the most primal thing that we can that is not procreation - the very heartbeat within us all.

Drums and the beats we produce with them mirror the beat of our Souls and the sound of the one thing which is the most intimate to each of our very selves - our very heartbeat. There is something very primal and native about a drum. In hula there are several different types that are used but the one that is used most is the 'ipu gourd drum. I know this drum. I own several of them in varied sizes and each of them carries its own Spirit. Each drum has its own sound, even the ones which have begun to crack and break from my using them so very much...they still are lovely to hear, still are magical in the way that they each make me feel when I am using them. The ones that I have gifted to others - again, cracked or not - carry with them my personal Spirit, for it is with these very drums which I have created my own music and have mimicked the very beat of the heart within me. If you have been gifted with one of my drums, know now just how much Spiritual Power you are in possession of, and realize that there is nothing and no one who can strip those 'ipu of their Power.
You were granted into my Life for a reason, and while in some cases that reason has yet to reveal itself, know that I was compelled to leave those drums with you and in your care because your heartbeat, much like your Soul,  is much like my own - true, native, wild and behemoth, perhaps even leviathan in size.

Not having been actively involved in Drum Circle taught me how badly we humans tend to miss the mark when it comes to the things in life that we hold as being very important to us and to our lives, and one of those things which I so very well missed is Drum Circle.

Anymore now, I am open to things and activities which connect us not only to the Divine Universe, but more, to our own Selves, because once we can reconnect with our own Selves we can then go forward and connect with other Souls, and that is what this life is really all about - experiencing things and events with like Souls.  Yet even though there are others who may seem to be just like us in many ways, we still need to maintain who we are, still need to ensure that we blend with the Souls and the energies of others when the time calls us to, and more importantly, that we understand that we are not there to become like them, but rather so that we may add to their lives, as well as to our own lives, the elements that are not there by our own manifestations. We will always draw who and what we need to , who and what we Desire the most, and who and what we so very badly need, and sometimes those things and people all end up being within the same person, and a lot of the time that very person is our Self.

Be Open to That Which Seems to be Way Out There...it may very well be exactly what you need!

We humans like to deny ourselves what the Universe so freely gives to us. Like spoiled children we want more than we are given, and when we push aside the things that we need in hopes that the thing we think we want will appear, too often we end up more disappointed, more with a feeling of lack, more with all those thoughts and feelings that we were trying to avoid, when instead we should have been pushing through those emotions. Rather than stuffing them back down to a place where we ourselves have judged us in a manner which is more hostile than that which we were "given" by others, we need to allow those feelings their right to surface, need to allow ourselves the luxury of feeling those things. It might seem weird to us to actually feel an emotion and to push through it rather than stuffing it down to where we want to believe that we are fine, when really, we are not.

When I say "Way Out There," I mean that there are not a lot of people who have been to an actual drum circle, not a lot of folks who have experienced the Soul within them as it melds with the body, and to hear those drum beats and how eventually, those beats also become One Soul of Music - Ancient Music, the kind that is stored within each and every human being. Eventually our inhibitions become something that is merely a shadow of what it was that we thought we were, and evolves to become something musically enhanced, Spiritually Brilliant and completely and totally the soulful measure of Divine Love - the sort which can only come from the heart and soul of Humankind.

Be Open to the things which make no sense to you, because eventually they will make perfect and Divine Sense. I have a habit of seeing things come to fruition in a Divinely Timed and Planned Way, and this is not something which I do not ascribe to every little tiny thing that has happened in my own life. All the way down to this morning's drum circle with like minded others whose only true goal is to return to the Soul of themselves.

If you will excuse me....I hear my Soul calling me...it sounds like the throatiness, the Goddess-like deepness of voice which is unique to my own 'ipu heke, my own chanting, my very own heartbeat...and most of all, is the very beat of my Spirit. It is the Kanaka Maoli within's Voice...the Ka Leo 'O Ke Uhane, the very voice that is my Own Soul...

I Love You All!!!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula sessions with her feel free to send her an email.

(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved. 

Just Flow With It

It takes time, but once you learn to just go with the flow of Life, things begin to get a whole lot easier

I am a worrier. I thought for a long time that I was supposed to worry because in that worry came Love, or what I thought was Love - but it wasn't Love. Love will not make a person feel badly, will not give a reason for us to feel like we are at a deficit, and Love will never hurt us. Ever. No matter what we think, and no matter what we have been through, nothing that is good for us can ever hurt us. Period.

Even if it seems like we are "giving up" a whole lot, when we think about things from an ego point of view we find that the choices which we know are the best ones for us, the ones that, when we first think about the thing that we know is best for us, it is not our heart that tells us that we should resist, and neither our Soul, or our mind, but only and always our ego. Our ego is that little Napoleonic part of us that tells us that we have everything to lose if we do what it is that our Soul is guiding us to do. Our Soul wants us to experience Joy, and our Ego wants us not to experience any pain, so rather than dealing with the little tiny piece of pain that the Soul tells us that we might go through, the Ego shouts in our ears that if we go against what it wants that the most terrible things could happen and then we follow that energy of not wanting to hurt over the energy of wanting permanent change. We would, in our human thinking, sooner not hurt than we would "suffer" the temporary discomfort brought about by change, and it could even be change that we asked for to happen.

We want things to be beautiful, but we are not willing to become the creator of our own Lives because of the responsibility involved with it. In that process we find out that we have created our lives to this point and that to this point things have been pretty hit-n-miss. We want things easy but we are not willing to go through the sifting of what is the truth of us versus what is someone else's truth about us. We want things to be different because we know that when we choose for things to be better for us and when we set that intention we already know, just from the way that we feel physically about the things that we want in our lives, that the way our body feel is the general feeling of how things really are.

When we have no idea what Joy feels like, we run from it. When we feel like change is painful. we excuse ourselves from having to make any changes. When we are in the middle of a "do or do not" moment is when we find out the very middle truth of ourselves, find out who we are and what we really are made of. We fear the air, literally, when we fear the changes that we asked for. We fear nothing, even though that "nothing" may very well be everything to us. We know that the thing that we want is ours, but we are so afraid of our own power that when we see what we have called to our lives and find out that we really are capable of more than we thought we were, we either realize that the party has just begun ...or we shrink away from it, starting the circle of doubt again, and we have to go through all of the  pain, again, and all because we are too afraid to find out that indeed, our thoughts are powerful and carry the ability for us to see greatness, not only in our own lives, but in the lives of those we touch everyday.

Just sayin'...

I Love You All!!
ROX

Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the  Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui . She is a writer, book author, choreographer, and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private sessions with her feel free to send an email.


(c) 2012 Roxanne Cottell. All Rights Reserved.

Careful what you say...and what you mean..

I say it often...be mindful of your words as your words are very powerful

When it comes to times when we feel that words are in order, prior to our orating, prior to our scribing, prior to it all, there must be some thought attached to it or else you may end up looking like a fool!

To the young lady on whose Facebook I prompted a diatribe of my own truths my apologies go out. However, to the others who helped with the misunderstandings of the morning, I must note here that there is nothing quite more sweet to anyone on this planet than knowing what our own truth is, and once it is that we know what our own truth is, there is nothing and no one who can come between us and that Truth. Right now my own truth is that I have been told that I am one way, that I am old, that I am a whole lot of things that normally would hurt me but on this occasion I see that the only thing I am is mildly annoyed. I am only mildly annoyed because of the idea that too many people online will take a chance at attacking others on a personal level, and there is no way that I have done that. I told the young lady in question that she merely needs to reread her words and know that there is a good enough reason why it set me off the way that it did.

Yet that is not good enough as to the reason that perfect strangers will goad each other and test each other to the ends of the proverbial universe, taking great pains to make sure that they get their point heard, that they get that last dig in, and man - it was personal. What I want to know is why it is that anyone who does not know me suddenly has the right to call me out, for, of all things, her own version of what "old" is. She claimed to be "young and wild and free," and that may be the truth, but in that one instance I saw myself in that young woman and drew back because no way at all do I care to be that way, at least not anymore. There was a day not too many years ago where it was that I made my money debating with people online, because I was really great at arguing a point, even if there was no point.

These days I tend to take my words very seriously and dearly, for they are part of the reason that I am who I am now. My words are loaded with Love, and my words are loaded with my own truth, but the one thing that I am positive that my words are not filled with is any sort of attack energy aimed toward someone else. I could take the young lady's advice and "chill" and that would have sufficed, that she would state her truth through the facts that she has, but when it got personal, I got personal., and it should never have gotten there at all. Yet, it did, and I let it, and I even sparred with this young person, later finding myself very uninterested in a match of wits with someone who would come to battle unarmed, and in her defense she does have the folly of youth on her side aiding her quest for pride...I hope she finds it.

So, I suppose that for today, the morning Mana'o, the morning thought has got to be that when we are trying to get our point across, that we should think clearly our thoughts so as not to offend those whose lives would be lived not quite like another's would be. This is the thing that none of us realizes when we are merely stating an opinion, which, the initial poster was doing. Our choice of words is what gives us power. Our delivery of those thoughts is what gives us more power, and when it is that we have offended someone without realizing that we have, it is at that point where we can realize that power.

When we offend we find out how powerful our words truly are....imagine what the world would be like if the majority of us, including myself at times, would bother to think before we spoke or wrote something...

You can run, but you can never hide from your own Truth...

Try as we might, the one thing that we cannot deny is our very Truth...

We all like to run and hide, all of us. We like to run away from the things that we know are the truth of us. I know that I do not like being thought as being an impatient person who only wants her way. I also know that if there is anyone I know who can handle her own truth it is me. (I am sort of a trader in Truth, so to speak). I know that I am not afraid to be who I am, and I am not afraid to do what I do, and I am not afraid to honor the truth which is me and which lives within me.

I didn't always know my own truth, though, and I know, too, that there are still a whole lot of people - even people who I know - who do not know their own truth, or worse, they DO know their own truth, but they refuse to give their very own truth a chance to be out and about in the world. When we refuse our own truth we also refuse the best that we have to offer to our very selves. When we cannot decide or rather, choose not to decide, and when we leave people wondering about things that we say or do, we end up taking away from ourselves, namely when we refuse to lives up to all that we are or all that we are intending to be.

We run from the truth because the simple fact is that when we find that we are not living up to our truth that we have work to do and we human beings hate to work. We want things to be our way, and we want to do what we think we know is the best thing for us, but when we end up right back where we started and we feel frustrated by the things that we see as not changing, it is at that point where we also need to think about what it is that we...WE are not being for our selves. When we deny the very truth of us, when we are more ready to take for granted the things that are in our midst, the things that we know are very important to us, and most of all, the thing that reveals ourselves to us, we deny what we need. We will more easily deny who we are by denying the things that we need that we called into Being and that we know are good for us.

I will not lie to anyone and tell anyone that I do not do this, and I will not sit here trying to convince anyone that from time to time, I do not dabble in the things that render me prone to making decisions for my self that sometimes may not be the best ones to make, but in the long run those very decisions are what have shaped me and who I now Am. Who I now Am is powerful in her own right, and my thought is that there is no way that any human being alive would also not want to not have to go through what they have gone through thus far because of the fear which compels them otherwise. I know that for a long time I was scared to try to become all that I am meant to become. For a long time I pushed against what people were telling me and up until just a few weeks ago, I denied who I Am and fell into that line of thinking that since I didn't want to be stuck in a mess of tears anymore, that I would not bother to help other people.

I thought that the reason that I would be upset all the time was because I was feeling the intense emotions of other people and that I was "living" the truths of other people, and in some cases I was and in a few cases I still do but it is because I want to feel those energies, because those very energies protect me, not from my truth, but from the lies and excuses that I would rather believe are the truth.

You can never hide from your own truth. You can never not do what you will to make those truths THE truth. You can step outside of them. You can look at them from a distance, and you can do all you can to resist them and the changes which are inherent in those things and situations that we all fear. But you cannot hide from it, and you cannot NOT look at it all and Know that somehow, this is where you are headed.

I know this because it is my own truth that I see the best in other people. I know this because I want to see those with whom I hang to also see the best in themselves, even if it takes me longer than I want it to. The truth is the truth, no matter what. The truth will always be the truth, no matter what.

And no matter what, you can run and even hide, but the one thing that you can never change is the truth.

Aloha !!! I Love You All !!
ROX

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