Auhea Wale Ana 'Oe...Please ...Pay Attention...
When there is about to come in to our lives change of great magnitude, I am prompted by Spirit to deliver the Divine Message that She has for us...so please, understand at this time that while they are my hands typing this message and while it is that these are the words which also come produced by my thoughts, very dearly at this time, my thoughts are not only not my own, but are the very channeled and Loving words of the Divine Creatress....please kokua...please assist your self with this message, for it is a Divinely Timed and Planned message...
"Auhea wale ana 'oe....please, Children, do listen with your hearts and your souls, and allow that which is within your Self be seen now, for now is that time in the collective lives of mankind to see in one another all that you each are. Do not judge that which you do not understand and cannot comprehend, and it is of paramount importance that you each heed the thoughts and the synchronicity which is coming to your blessed Humanity at lightning pace.
Change is upon you, and the changes, while they are not comfortable, are needed, for all of mankind has a shared purpose, in Aloha (Love), and in Peaceful Unity (Lokahi), and there are a great many adjustments to be made, singularly as well as collectively. It is time now to release all that you have as your painful memories, and time now, too, to forgive that which is within you each that has yet to be forgiven, for all of humanity is prepared to walk the Path of Divinity, but no longer alone, and instead, as One. For it is that The One is The One of the Whole of the Human Race, and it is a sad testament that throughout the course of your lives you have all chosen to go the way of the Ego. You did so because this is what was expected of you all. You did so because that is not only what you were taught, but was also the lesson that you were expected to learn and did. The time has come, now, to release those thoughts and release the pain and give it to Spirit, for it is within those thoughts that you have been borne to this day in the manner which you have been, be they Loving thoughts, angry thoughts. Whatever the case may be, these things are meant, for they are that which will lead the whole of you to your Higher Calling. Your Higher Calling is your Kuleana (responsibility) and your Kuleana is many fold. For many lifetimes collectively you have taken on the color of that which is not you, is not the truth of you, and you have carried that weight for far too long now. The time has come to release yourselves from that burden and know, too, that Now is the only time that any one of you has.
Now is when you will make the most crucial decisions, and now you have all those same options before you that you have always, but Now, those options have taken on a far greater meaning than ever before, and yes, you are meant to know that no matter what you have chosen you will have also made the concreteness of that choice permanent in your awareness. We beseech you to please do not shun the Kuleana. Be Wise in your choices, for they are the very stepping stones to your own Greatness. Humankind has shunned, for centuries, its collective greatness. Now is the time that all these things, these choices and the start on the Path that is your own, matter. They matter so very much for the time at hand is greatly awash with the mixture of elation and fear and confusion and apprehension and it is so because you have made it so. You have spent your entirety of Knowing thinking that there has to be a winner, has to be a loser, when in fact and in truth, there is nothing for anyone to win or to lose, and only that which you each are to Be.
You must be willing now more than ever to release your fears and be out in the world, giving your Truth to whomever will have it and Know it and Bless it as the Gift which you each have for your Tribe and the Greater Whole of the Tribe of Humanity.Know now that regardless if it is accepted by others, that it MUST BE accepted by you each and all, in a singularly yet, paradoxically, collective manner. You are meant to be as One Wholeness, even as you each remain the singular representation of the Love that Is Spirit. The Love that Is Spirit is that which all are privy to, but mankind is still "of the Ego," and due to this, there are many who are not aware that the changes requested have been made and there are those who still resist this. You resist because you are not aware that you have been guided to this place in your Lives so that within the confines of those Lives you will be able to Bless others with your lived representation of The All That is.
You must choose, now, Children, to Live up to that which is all of Na Mamo, all of that which is of The Chosen and of The Cherished, for this is what you are, this is Who You Are, and this is the Truth that Is. It is a Kuleana that the Whole of Mankind asked for, and it is now upon you, and there are many who still turn their eyes away from the blinding light of the Truth, for theirs is still the comfort which resides with the darkness that is within each and every human being. You have pandered to the whims of the Ego far too long, and it is because of this that you cringe and you chafe at the changes which you, yourselves, have asked for. It is not as difficult as it might seem, and at the same time, it very well is. It is because you have chosen it to be, and it is because the hard way is the only way that all of mankind has proven itself to believe is the most worthy way to see the changes and to embrace them.
We come to You as a meaningfulness to the changes at hand, and it is our hope that you all will seek the answers which come to you in the ways that are most noticeably apparent, even and especially when that apparent nature is of the sort which you cannot define with your limited human thinking. This is the time that the thoughts that you have had, the dreams you have chosen to build, and the life that you have each chosen to Live come face to face with everything else that you have all thought, dreamed, feared, wished for, dealt with, Know, and it is good,even as for some of you, it may have been and will remain to be painful. You are being asked to release the pain, release that which is most familiar to you and embrace the newness of that which is upon you all. Embrace the evolution that you are each singly and collectively experiencing, and know now that those things in your lives that make you cry, make you angry, make you "Soul Sick"...all is meant as a bigger part of your Grander Purpose and all is meant for your proper growth and more for the growing into of things that you cannot fathom as being part of your awareness at this time.
Your awareness - it is what is going under the most change at this time, and it is because you all, for so long, have paradoxically known and seen what you must do and chose always to remain with those things which insulted your soul and gave meaning only to the pain without your addressing the very healing which has been collectively requested, over and over again, and when we heeded the cries in the night, you listened, heard, but you were not able to understand what the message was. The message is different but same, and it is all Love, all healing, all pure, all Light, and we ask that now, in this moment, that you remember who you are. Remember your place in the Universe and remember that even in your imperfections you have been made perfect, not in your eyes, but in that of Spirit's. Spirit is why you are here, in this awareness and Spirit has endowed you each and all with the very Light from the Soul, and it is a Divine Energy, and one which at this moment on Earth, is dearly needed, not to be kept so that your ego has yet one more thing to cling to, but more, is to be shared, even in this, what you see as its own unpolished and imperfect form. Your human eyes cannot fathom that these things that you see, that you hear and know, as being anything other than that which is harsh and that which hurts the Spirit but most assuredly does not crush it, for the time that was that was the intention of the masses to bring hurt and harm to your Souls is long past and most assuredly, verily we say this to you all, that the time, the hurt, is now prevalent in your eyes and in your minds because that is where it has been kept and embraced for all of time that has been. You now have the awareness that you no longer have to hold on to all of that, and you may, at your option, choose to release yourself from the past.
Learn to forgive, for in those times that you have accepted, let go, surrendered, you were made stronger, more perfect and it was a Divine and Sacred Moment, not only in your own human lives, but more, in the collective lives which are shared by all of humanity as the very collective whole that you are.
...remember that you are Love and that you are Loved... "
(..And with that said...)
I LOVE YOU ALL!!
ROX
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Monday, January 28, 2013
You have to be who you want in your life..yeesh!
Since we mirror each other, it is safe to say that in order to see it in your life you have to be it in your life...duh...
If you want good people in your life, then you have to be a good person, inside and outside. There are no ands, ifs or buts about it - that which you want to have in your life, namely the people there, always show up in our lives when we have the thought in our heads that we want them there. When they get there, in our lives, this is when the fun begins because the thing that we thought we wanted to do with those people turns out to be something that we totally did not expect.
The things that we totally do not expect are to see in them the changes that we need to go through. In my case, and I am very willing to admit it, I am vain. In fact, just saying that I am vain is so an understatement that if it is at all any kind of indication that when I say that I like looking at myself in the mirror, when I tell you that when it matters I am constantly checking my clothes, my shoes, my self for things that would constitute as my being somehow less than all I want to believe that I am. And all that I believe that I am at this point is not a bad thing at all, but with my vanity level being what it has always been, sometimes, it is an issue. It is an issue because I know that what a woman looks like is very much a part of her very own personal power, is part of her wiggle and her walk, just like her giggle and her talk, and there is no man alive on this planet who has met me personally who does not recognize just how dearly I know this one thing. I know that what a person is seen as at first is the very thing which gives flavor and strength to any kind of interaction between people.
So, it often makes me wonder, from time to time, why it is that people are not seeing in others the things that they need to change about themselves. One such thing is our ability to see who we are by not seeing it in someone else, and more, the person who we used to be in other people comes out shining and screaming like so many crazed loonies who have somehow wandered off the Path (gotta love Pink Floyd, right?). I wonder why it is that we can see what is in other people so well, and why, too, it is that when we see what is right there, why do we also not see that there is a lot of ourselves in those people, and the more that we look the more that we will be shown the areas of our lives that need improvement.
Haha...in my case? Yup...that vanity thing...
...but hey...at least I am honest about it...
Yeah yeah...I know..I know...Vanity...it is a sin, but there is not a lot that is not sinful, and in that one thing that I know is my greatest downfall I also have seen the Truth of me, and the Truth of me tells me that there are a lot of things that I have been told in the past about me that I know just from looking at others is not the truth. More than that, because I am in their lives at all, it should tell them, too, that what was is not the Truth of them either, but it is just not something that they can see as something that they would think is somehow an issue for them, and it is like this because for a long, long time, it was the only truth they knew as their own.
The only Truth that a whole lot of people knew about me, and more, that many still only know about me, is what I look like. They are the people who have met my Leo Rising but who have not gotten to the Pisces Sun and neither the Taurus Moon in me, and it is because I won't allow it. I will not allow people to get in, to get past the Lion at the gate, and it is because even as we mirror a whole lot to one another, it is the underlying motive that is not the same, at least not that we know of, and it is the underlying traumas that are still alive and well within us all that breathe beneath the facade of me and my Lioness and her roaring.
Yet even this is not the only thing that we mirror in each other or to each other. In other people we see just how really very screwed up we really are, if it applies, and more than that, we also see where it is that we can improve. Lots of clients have told me that they just find other people so they don't have to look at their own ugliness, but that doesn't help or solve anything. In fact that does nothing at all for us or for them. When we are more willing to only see the ugliness and not also the beauty in a thing, we are most highly present at that time to see just what we want to, and what we want to see there is not going to be seen because the only thing that we will choose to see is what is hurting us.
In my world, what is hurting is the idea that I see so much around me that it is impossible to believe that to an extent, I am the ugliness that I see in others, and by this I mean that I am able to become that ugliness, that I am able, too, to wear it as well as I have in the past. In the past I was the most insecure person I knew, and it was all because while I knew what I looked like, I also knew that there was more to me than only that, and I pursued what else I knew was there. It took me a while to figure out that I was not a pompous ass and that I didn't have to be an intellectual snob, even though that is what I turned into. Someone referred to me as being the very most perfect weapon known to mankind...or rather "male-kind" and it is not just because of the outside, but because at the time, I very much was that very, very intellectually brilliant albeit very, very snobby about it, snob. It took my losing what I thought was real to learn that what I had in material was not me, but it was my stuff. I was told that my stuff represented who I was, but I knew the truth.
I knew the Truth, and so, too, should you
If anyone is taking heed to this, at all, then please, take these words to your heart and know that I am only telling you my own truth.
You forget every time that you are meant to aspire to the greatness that you really are, and this means that the greatness who you really are is not measured in how much stuff you have, in how many people you know, in whatever it is that thrills you that is on the outside of you. The way that you aspire to be all the great that you can be is to seek out those things in the people who you surround yourself with and see in them the things that you are. If you know me and you have seen me and you have known that I am every bit as real as I am telling you that I am and have been for a long while now, I want you to know that you, too, are as real as it gets, but I want you to think about if the truth of you is the truth that you like to see. I want you to know that things that repeat themselves do so because you have not yet learned how to deal with them and that is why these people who you surround yourself with and who you find in your presence are there - to remind you of who you are, and sometimes, they show up to remind you who you WERE.
And if who you were is acceptable, then that is on you...it simply means that you cannot handle more than what you have....
Be the best mirror to others that you can be...
The bottom line here is easy - be the best person who you can be, that way those in your life who you care about will always have the best mirror to see themselves with. This is not that hard unless you somehow like being in the middle of things that you are not responsible for having created. If you see yourself in others and what you see there is not okay with you, and those people are there and you keep seeing you in them, you need to ask yourself if you can do anything to not be that way anymore.
Whether it is a a depravity, or perhaps you are like me, secretly...okay, NOT so secretly incredibly vain and not scared to let people know it...whatever it is that you know you need to work on, no matter what, that is what you need to work on...what's the problem?
What are you so scared of...being the best you that you can possibly be?
Why?
Oh! Yes...I know..because it takes work, and working on ourselves sucks. Working on ourselves sucks because it means that we were not finished, and that no, we are not perfect either. Working on us means that somehow, we are not complete, and we are not healed, and most of all, we are not whole. If we are not whole, we cannot possibly be the best mirror that other people have to see themselves with. If we are willing to not see what is there, then we are willing also to make up our own reasons as to why it is not we who have to change, but is someone else. If we can see that other people need to change, and since it is that we are mirrors, what does that tell you the truth of you really is?
When I say that we are mirrors, I mean that and mirrors do not lie - they are mirrors. Mirrors are the things that make us know who we are from our own perspective, but when it is that there is a mirror that tells us something about us, and it is something that we do not like and do not agree with, the beauty is that we do not always have to be the reflection looking back at us. We can change it because we have seen what we are in someone else.
If what you have seen in me is something that you want to see in you, I thank you. I thank you because that makes all the nonsense that I have endured over the idea that I actually like what I look like these days as not being such a bad thing at all. If you see in me the thing that makes you run like hell in the other direction and away from me...well...haha...I'll be back...that much I promise...
Running from me....hell, running from anyone...that just means that you already know what you are looking at and that yes, you should be scared as hell because good or bad....
...you are looking at yourself...I Promise...
And good or bad...it is this way for a purpose, a reason, and none of it is bad...but this doesn't mean that while none of it is bad that none of it will be uncomfortable. Seeing the self in others and knowing that we are mirrored in the souls of our peers is scary. But it is scary in a way like no other, because either way...
...it is the truth of us....
I LOVE YOU ALL...
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Consultant, an advocate and public speaker against domestic violence and emotional abuse, both of which she is also a survivor. If you would like information about Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her or would like to book her for a speaking engagment please feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
If you want good people in your life, then you have to be a good person, inside and outside. There are no ands, ifs or buts about it - that which you want to have in your life, namely the people there, always show up in our lives when we have the thought in our heads that we want them there. When they get there, in our lives, this is when the fun begins because the thing that we thought we wanted to do with those people turns out to be something that we totally did not expect.
The things that we totally do not expect are to see in them the changes that we need to go through. In my case, and I am very willing to admit it, I am vain. In fact, just saying that I am vain is so an understatement that if it is at all any kind of indication that when I say that I like looking at myself in the mirror, when I tell you that when it matters I am constantly checking my clothes, my shoes, my self for things that would constitute as my being somehow less than all I want to believe that I am. And all that I believe that I am at this point is not a bad thing at all, but with my vanity level being what it has always been, sometimes, it is an issue. It is an issue because I know that what a woman looks like is very much a part of her very own personal power, is part of her wiggle and her walk, just like her giggle and her talk, and there is no man alive on this planet who has met me personally who does not recognize just how dearly I know this one thing. I know that what a person is seen as at first is the very thing which gives flavor and strength to any kind of interaction between people.
So, it often makes me wonder, from time to time, why it is that people are not seeing in others the things that they need to change about themselves. One such thing is our ability to see who we are by not seeing it in someone else, and more, the person who we used to be in other people comes out shining and screaming like so many crazed loonies who have somehow wandered off the Path (gotta love Pink Floyd, right?). I wonder why it is that we can see what is in other people so well, and why, too, it is that when we see what is right there, why do we also not see that there is a lot of ourselves in those people, and the more that we look the more that we will be shown the areas of our lives that need improvement.
Haha...in my case? Yup...that vanity thing...
...but hey...at least I am honest about it...
Yeah yeah...I know..I know...Vanity...it is a sin, but there is not a lot that is not sinful, and in that one thing that I know is my greatest downfall I also have seen the Truth of me, and the Truth of me tells me that there are a lot of things that I have been told in the past about me that I know just from looking at others is not the truth. More than that, because I am in their lives at all, it should tell them, too, that what was is not the Truth of them either, but it is just not something that they can see as something that they would think is somehow an issue for them, and it is like this because for a long, long time, it was the only truth they knew as their own.
The only Truth that a whole lot of people knew about me, and more, that many still only know about me, is what I look like. They are the people who have met my Leo Rising but who have not gotten to the Pisces Sun and neither the Taurus Moon in me, and it is because I won't allow it. I will not allow people to get in, to get past the Lion at the gate, and it is because even as we mirror a whole lot to one another, it is the underlying motive that is not the same, at least not that we know of, and it is the underlying traumas that are still alive and well within us all that breathe beneath the facade of me and my Lioness and her roaring.
Yet even this is not the only thing that we mirror in each other or to each other. In other people we see just how really very screwed up we really are, if it applies, and more than that, we also see where it is that we can improve. Lots of clients have told me that they just find other people so they don't have to look at their own ugliness, but that doesn't help or solve anything. In fact that does nothing at all for us or for them. When we are more willing to only see the ugliness and not also the beauty in a thing, we are most highly present at that time to see just what we want to, and what we want to see there is not going to be seen because the only thing that we will choose to see is what is hurting us.
In my world, what is hurting is the idea that I see so much around me that it is impossible to believe that to an extent, I am the ugliness that I see in others, and by this I mean that I am able to become that ugliness, that I am able, too, to wear it as well as I have in the past. In the past I was the most insecure person I knew, and it was all because while I knew what I looked like, I also knew that there was more to me than only that, and I pursued what else I knew was there. It took me a while to figure out that I was not a pompous ass and that I didn't have to be an intellectual snob, even though that is what I turned into. Someone referred to me as being the very most perfect weapon known to mankind...or rather "male-kind" and it is not just because of the outside, but because at the time, I very much was that very, very intellectually brilliant albeit very, very snobby about it, snob. It took my losing what I thought was real to learn that what I had in material was not me, but it was my stuff. I was told that my stuff represented who I was, but I knew the truth.
I knew the Truth, and so, too, should you
If anyone is taking heed to this, at all, then please, take these words to your heart and know that I am only telling you my own truth.
You forget every time that you are meant to aspire to the greatness that you really are, and this means that the greatness who you really are is not measured in how much stuff you have, in how many people you know, in whatever it is that thrills you that is on the outside of you. The way that you aspire to be all the great that you can be is to seek out those things in the people who you surround yourself with and see in them the things that you are. If you know me and you have seen me and you have known that I am every bit as real as I am telling you that I am and have been for a long while now, I want you to know that you, too, are as real as it gets, but I want you to think about if the truth of you is the truth that you like to see. I want you to know that things that repeat themselves do so because you have not yet learned how to deal with them and that is why these people who you surround yourself with and who you find in your presence are there - to remind you of who you are, and sometimes, they show up to remind you who you WERE.
And if who you were is acceptable, then that is on you...it simply means that you cannot handle more than what you have....
Be the best mirror to others that you can be...
The bottom line here is easy - be the best person who you can be, that way those in your life who you care about will always have the best mirror to see themselves with. This is not that hard unless you somehow like being in the middle of things that you are not responsible for having created. If you see yourself in others and what you see there is not okay with you, and those people are there and you keep seeing you in them, you need to ask yourself if you can do anything to not be that way anymore.
Whether it is a a depravity, or perhaps you are like me, secretly...okay, NOT so secretly incredibly vain and not scared to let people know it...whatever it is that you know you need to work on, no matter what, that is what you need to work on...what's the problem?
What are you so scared of...being the best you that you can possibly be?
Why?
Oh! Yes...I know..because it takes work, and working on ourselves sucks. Working on ourselves sucks because it means that we were not finished, and that no, we are not perfect either. Working on us means that somehow, we are not complete, and we are not healed, and most of all, we are not whole. If we are not whole, we cannot possibly be the best mirror that other people have to see themselves with. If we are willing to not see what is there, then we are willing also to make up our own reasons as to why it is not we who have to change, but is someone else. If we can see that other people need to change, and since it is that we are mirrors, what does that tell you the truth of you really is?
When I say that we are mirrors, I mean that and mirrors do not lie - they are mirrors. Mirrors are the things that make us know who we are from our own perspective, but when it is that there is a mirror that tells us something about us, and it is something that we do not like and do not agree with, the beauty is that we do not always have to be the reflection looking back at us. We can change it because we have seen what we are in someone else.
If what you have seen in me is something that you want to see in you, I thank you. I thank you because that makes all the nonsense that I have endured over the idea that I actually like what I look like these days as not being such a bad thing at all. If you see in me the thing that makes you run like hell in the other direction and away from me...well...haha...I'll be back...that much I promise...
Running from me....hell, running from anyone...that just means that you already know what you are looking at and that yes, you should be scared as hell because good or bad....
...you are looking at yourself...I Promise...
And good or bad...it is this way for a purpose, a reason, and none of it is bad...but this doesn't mean that while none of it is bad that none of it will be uncomfortable. Seeing the self in others and knowing that we are mirrored in the souls of our peers is scary. But it is scary in a way like no other, because either way...
...it is the truth of us....
I LOVE YOU ALL...
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Consultant, an advocate and public speaker against domestic violence and emotional abuse, both of which she is also a survivor. If you would like information about Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her or would like to book her for a speaking engagment please feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
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Thursday, January 24, 2013
It ain't your birthday - you cannot have your cake and eat it, too
You cannot have your cake AND eat it, and in this case, I am not sure why you would even want to!
Want to eat it, that is.
Hello... I am Roxanne and today I am here to serve you your own okole on a plate if you can see yourself in this blog at all.
Yes, I am pretty angry right now, and it is because, once again and due to my believing and desiring and wanting more than anything to help someone else understand things about themselves, and because I just have such a great depth of hope for and faith in others, there are times that I am disappointed by someone who has come to me in search of at least some sort of semblance of what can be called the Truth.
I deal daily in words, in the Truth as it applies to the whole of us, and the Truth as it applies to the whole of us is not the Truth that we know is the Truth (that mankind, for the most part and even as we are starting to get a clue, is in need of some acceptance of the Truth). More times than not we want the truths that we seek diligently to also be the Truth that will apply to others as it applies to us and our lives. We want other people to see things the way that we do and we want them to not argue with us about the validity of their Truth being valid to them as much as it is that our own Truth is valid to us. This is the paradox, the ickiness - that we have our own lives and other people have their own lives and while those two lives may meet in the middle and appear to be the same the Truth is that the two are no where near the other in terms of energy, and this is where the ass chewing begins.
Two Worlds. Two Feet. Two Ways. Twice the Lesson...but...
To whom it concerns- shame on you !
Shame on you for judging what someone else is going through and shame on you for not being able to bother to even think that you are recognizing in someone else the same thing that exists in you. If you are able to see someone else's weakness and name it, this means that it is alive in you. If you can pinpoint what someone else is going through and are willing to judge them instead of telling them that you can relate to their pain, shame on you. If can see yourself in someone else and you are still stuck in the energy like they are still stuck in the energies and you have the very nerve to tell me about their issues while you are still in the same issues and you are willing to give out what you think are the best solutions for someone else without your being able to also think that maybe the reason that you are doing like you are doing and NOT paying attention to yourselves telling me how to do what I do best - shame the hell on you!
Shame on your judging someone else, and shame on your not even thinking that maybe you are meant to hear your own words because even as they apply to the other person they also apply to you, in more ways than one. That which you see in others also lives in you, so if you feel like you are privileged enough to tell someone else how they need to change themselves - and more than a lot else I hate telling anyone this- but that you can see it in them means that it IS in you and that the message and the lesson that you are giving them at that point is not only that they need to grow, but more than that, you do as well.
Once again...
Once again, (and in some cases...again, and again, and again...and again...) if you are able to see it in someone else the guarantee and the only guarantee that I EVER give to anyone is that it lives in you as well. If you can see something that bothers you in someone else, it means that on some level it is there and alive within you. Deal with it in you before you try to deal with it in someone else, because while you are trying to fix them, you are leaving yourself unattended to. Leaving yourself and your soul unattended to is like leaving a baby in a grocery cart unattended in a parking lot the day before turkey day. Spirit work is not easy, and the things that we find out about ourselves is sometimes not the nicest, namely when we recognize it in someone else and more, when we figure out and accept that it also is alive and well within us,too.
I said it. Deal with it, not because I said it, but because it won't go away til you do. This is the truth. Deal with it.
Why oh WHY?
Why is it SO hard for people to believe that they are good enough to be everything they want to be? Why is there such a problem where there are changes that need to happen but that we are all so danged scared of what might happen to us and who we are and who thinks what of us that we are more willing to stay the same as we ever were and then have the nerve to blame the way that we feel on someone else? This is not to say that I have been blamed for other peoples' stuff, but the truth is that whenever we seek out consult from anyone or anywhere, the thing that we have to remember to never forget is that there is the part of the lesson where you come in, where your stuff is seen and where you have to look at it and not only think about why it is there, but that you also have to accept that this is the ugly in you. No matter what, it is yours to accept, and I promise you that once you have accepted it - no matter what the 'it' is, you will feel like your soul has taken flight and that now...NOW you can move forward.
Yes, it really is that easy...the accepting part...it is the work involved that people don't want to do, and it is the changes that make us cringe for the idea that on some level we are more inclined to not make for fear of the fact that when we change anything about ourselves, there is a guaranteed loss - a loss of a sense of the self as it was...the loss of the idea that we fear that the people we love the most will not understand why we felt like we needed to change...the loss, essentially, of the ego's control over a certain area of our lives, and that certain area of our lives is the one place that we will always have to see to, always have to stare the demon down, and always, no matter what, take into account the idea that who we are now, who we are going to be tomorrow, is not the same person that we have been just yesterday. Evolution of the self is not something that can be done overnight. It took all of us a long time to get where we are. The moment that we know we need to change is the very moment that our evolution, our growth, begins.
This Very Moment is Crucial
This very moment is that moment that I tell all my clients about. It is that moment at which each and every one of us looks at where we are right this minute and think about all that which has happened that brought us to right now and we ponder the idea that we were somehow not even thinking that maybe we were taking two steps back.
You were never taking two steps back, and what stops us is the idea that we have already been where we do not want to be, and where we want to be is not that far away because the reality is that where we want to be depends on our inner world. It is the inner world that directs the outer world. When the outer world sucks, it is because the inner world is trying to let us know that it sucks for a reason and that the reason can be tiny or giant, depending upon your own thought about it. You can see the hammajangs as being a big fat problem, or you can see them all as being part of the process of elimination, and what you are eliminating is NOT the self, but is the false self. The false self is the part of you that prods the ego to be whatever it tells us it is that gets us into the tough spots that we find ourselves in from time to time. The false self is the part of us that makes us feel like we have anything to prove to anyone at all. The false self is the part of us that tells us that we have to do more to be more, and the false self is the part of us that makes us believe that we are never going to be good enough.
It is also the part of us that prompts us to go in reverse,even as our gears are in fully forward mode.
Stop running in reverse already.
It's hard on you. Just because you are used to it doesn't mean that it is meant to keep on being done.
Seriously...just sayin'...stop wasting your own time - knock your crap off and stop being scared of everything. It is easier to be afraid of things one thing at a time, so that you can see that things are not as scary as you believe them to be....
I LOVE YOU ALL !
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Consultant, an advocate and public speaker against domestic violence and emotional abuse, both of which she is also a survivor. If you would like information about Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her or would like to book her for a speaking engagment please feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
Want to eat it, that is.
Hello... I am Roxanne and today I am here to serve you your own okole on a plate if you can see yourself in this blog at all.
Yes, I am pretty angry right now, and it is because, once again and due to my believing and desiring and wanting more than anything to help someone else understand things about themselves, and because I just have such a great depth of hope for and faith in others, there are times that I am disappointed by someone who has come to me in search of at least some sort of semblance of what can be called the Truth.
I deal daily in words, in the Truth as it applies to the whole of us, and the Truth as it applies to the whole of us is not the Truth that we know is the Truth (that mankind, for the most part and even as we are starting to get a clue, is in need of some acceptance of the Truth). More times than not we want the truths that we seek diligently to also be the Truth that will apply to others as it applies to us and our lives. We want other people to see things the way that we do and we want them to not argue with us about the validity of their Truth being valid to them as much as it is that our own Truth is valid to us. This is the paradox, the ickiness - that we have our own lives and other people have their own lives and while those two lives may meet in the middle and appear to be the same the Truth is that the two are no where near the other in terms of energy, and this is where the ass chewing begins.
Two Worlds. Two Feet. Two Ways. Twice the Lesson...but...
To whom it concerns- shame on you !
Shame on you for judging what someone else is going through and shame on you for not being able to bother to even think that you are recognizing in someone else the same thing that exists in you. If you are able to see someone else's weakness and name it, this means that it is alive in you. If you can pinpoint what someone else is going through and are willing to judge them instead of telling them that you can relate to their pain, shame on you. If can see yourself in someone else and you are still stuck in the energy like they are still stuck in the energies and you have the very nerve to tell me about their issues while you are still in the same issues and you are willing to give out what you think are the best solutions for someone else without your being able to also think that maybe the reason that you are doing like you are doing and NOT paying attention to yourselves telling me how to do what I do best - shame the hell on you!
Shame on your judging someone else, and shame on your not even thinking that maybe you are meant to hear your own words because even as they apply to the other person they also apply to you, in more ways than one. That which you see in others also lives in you, so if you feel like you are privileged enough to tell someone else how they need to change themselves - and more than a lot else I hate telling anyone this- but that you can see it in them means that it IS in you and that the message and the lesson that you are giving them at that point is not only that they need to grow, but more than that, you do as well.
Once again...
Once again, (and in some cases...again, and again, and again...and again...) if you are able to see it in someone else the guarantee and the only guarantee that I EVER give to anyone is that it lives in you as well. If you can see something that bothers you in someone else, it means that on some level it is there and alive within you. Deal with it in you before you try to deal with it in someone else, because while you are trying to fix them, you are leaving yourself unattended to. Leaving yourself and your soul unattended to is like leaving a baby in a grocery cart unattended in a parking lot the day before turkey day. Spirit work is not easy, and the things that we find out about ourselves is sometimes not the nicest, namely when we recognize it in someone else and more, when we figure out and accept that it also is alive and well within us,too.
I said it. Deal with it, not because I said it, but because it won't go away til you do. This is the truth. Deal with it.
Why oh WHY?
Why is it SO hard for people to believe that they are good enough to be everything they want to be? Why is there such a problem where there are changes that need to happen but that we are all so danged scared of what might happen to us and who we are and who thinks what of us that we are more willing to stay the same as we ever were and then have the nerve to blame the way that we feel on someone else? This is not to say that I have been blamed for other peoples' stuff, but the truth is that whenever we seek out consult from anyone or anywhere, the thing that we have to remember to never forget is that there is the part of the lesson where you come in, where your stuff is seen and where you have to look at it and not only think about why it is there, but that you also have to accept that this is the ugly in you. No matter what, it is yours to accept, and I promise you that once you have accepted it - no matter what the 'it' is, you will feel like your soul has taken flight and that now...NOW you can move forward.
Yes, it really is that easy...the accepting part...it is the work involved that people don't want to do, and it is the changes that make us cringe for the idea that on some level we are more inclined to not make for fear of the fact that when we change anything about ourselves, there is a guaranteed loss - a loss of a sense of the self as it was...the loss of the idea that we fear that the people we love the most will not understand why we felt like we needed to change...the loss, essentially, of the ego's control over a certain area of our lives, and that certain area of our lives is the one place that we will always have to see to, always have to stare the demon down, and always, no matter what, take into account the idea that who we are now, who we are going to be tomorrow, is not the same person that we have been just yesterday. Evolution of the self is not something that can be done overnight. It took all of us a long time to get where we are. The moment that we know we need to change is the very moment that our evolution, our growth, begins.
This Very Moment is Crucial
This very moment is that moment that I tell all my clients about. It is that moment at which each and every one of us looks at where we are right this minute and think about all that which has happened that brought us to right now and we ponder the idea that we were somehow not even thinking that maybe we were taking two steps back.
You were never taking two steps back, and what stops us is the idea that we have already been where we do not want to be, and where we want to be is not that far away because the reality is that where we want to be depends on our inner world. It is the inner world that directs the outer world. When the outer world sucks, it is because the inner world is trying to let us know that it sucks for a reason and that the reason can be tiny or giant, depending upon your own thought about it. You can see the hammajangs as being a big fat problem, or you can see them all as being part of the process of elimination, and what you are eliminating is NOT the self, but is the false self. The false self is the part of you that prods the ego to be whatever it tells us it is that gets us into the tough spots that we find ourselves in from time to time. The false self is the part of us that makes us feel like we have anything to prove to anyone at all. The false self is the part of us that tells us that we have to do more to be more, and the false self is the part of us that makes us believe that we are never going to be good enough.
It is also the part of us that prompts us to go in reverse,even as our gears are in fully forward mode.
Stop running in reverse already.
It's hard on you. Just because you are used to it doesn't mean that it is meant to keep on being done.
Seriously...just sayin'...stop wasting your own time - knock your crap off and stop being scared of everything. It is easier to be afraid of things one thing at a time, so that you can see that things are not as scary as you believe them to be....
I LOVE YOU ALL !
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Consultant, an advocate and public speaker against domestic violence and emotional abuse, both of which she is also a survivor. If you would like information about Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her or would like to book her for a speaking engagment please feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
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Sunday, January 20, 2013
Another way to look at things...
While it won't take away from the pain of our losses, we can look at them differently if we should take the option to...
"...lucky I'm sane after all I've been through...I can't complain but sometimes I still do. Life's been good to me so far..." (Joe Walsh's "Life's been good to me")
I will be the last person to tell anyone else how to deal with their losses and expect that the way that I deal with mine they can also deal with theirs. That is not giving other people their birth right of grieving, of being angry for the losses they have incurred, for being in the middle of a hurt that they could not have imagined coming to their lives. Not one of us on the planet does not go through some sort of loss in our lives. Sometimes those losses are torture, and sometimes those losses just plain old suck and are a pain in the rear end.
All the time, though, those losses serve us up with the option to do something about the pain, and by doing something about the pain I do not mean that a person needs to go out into the world and numb their pain by replacing the loss with some other thing...like overindulgence, addiction, self-mutilation. By doing something about the pain I mean that in that pain we have to think that there is a message in it for us, we have to believe that in that pain we are meant to grow forward, to show our Light through it all and still be able to lift our head in the morning knowing that we have a purpose in this lifetime and fully knowing that even though we have suffered any loss, Spirit has us. All of us. We have to know within us that there is a big giant reason that we have to experience the big giant losses, and believe it when I say that in this last month alone I have been blessed with people who have experienced losses so big and so ...gnarly...that to believe that any of them could have fathomed that they would be able to deal with their own pain in a way that blesses the world, including and most of all, blessing themselves...while I will not call it an impossible thing that they have turned their grief and their pain into the beginnings of a beautiful work of Soulfulness, I will call it a Miracle.
Miracles....the other thing that "happens"...
I have been witness to a whole lot of miraculous things happening, and this past week was not an exception. I saw a new client turn her brand new pain into something delightfully gorgeous in nature and totally giant in terms of Aloha. I watched over the last few months a client who is now one of my best pals turn himself from a mass of inner turmoil to taking the steps he knows he needs to in order for his life to become all that it is meant to be and it is a beautiful thing. I have watched yet another person, also a guy, go from being a target of verbal slings and arrows into the Soul Warrior that he was born to be. And the miracles, they just keep on happening.
The Miracles keep happening, and it is awesome to see that there are people who know this about themselves, and if they do not know this there are folks like me who are too happy to let them know that yes, indeed and in fact, you, me, we all are the Miracle waiting to happen, all the time, everyday. This might sound like it is crazy, but in the losses that we each suffer, big or small, temporary or permanent, lie the seeds of our own greatness.
The Seeds of Our Own Greatness
I do not even want to begin to compare my own losses to those of others, because my losses can be replaced, but there are people who read this blog who I know well of their losses, and their losses are huge and varied. Yet, it is in those very losses that we find the very seeds of greatness that beg to be sown so that the fruits of those labors can be seen, can be witnessed by all, and can be taken as a blessing that these people who hurt so badly can rise above their pain and their agony, become one with the thing that could have eaten their lives but the thing that would not be allowed to do that.
In their pain and in their struggle to feel something else, in their struggle to make sense of the loss, and in their striving to do what is right and best for their own lives, they rise. They rise like the very Phoenix from the very ashes which were caused by the fires of life. Yet they do not realize that in that fire they were made stunning by God. In those fires they were refined and made ready to be all the gift to the world that they were meant to be. These people...those who have been refined by the Fire of their lives...these people are the ones who have been called upon to be the leaders among us, for these have been the very ones who have fought their way back to wholeness and while they may not be completely and totally whole and healed at this point in time, they Know in the Bones of their Souls that they are going to get there and that they are going to make their lives the living testimony to the beauty which is borne, sometimes, from the losses.
We can only deal with so much before we are brought to a place inside of us that calls upon our ability to stare the pain in the face and stare it down, make it bleed and make it crumble like it made us crumble. We all strive for that, strive to make that one face, not to the rest of the world, but to our very selves, because sometimes, most of the time, in some cases all of the time, we are our own worst enemy and we are the very thing that causes the Miracle to be delayed in some fashion. The truth is that it is not delayed, but that it has fruitioned into something that we cannot understand, and again the process of refining us through the fire begins, and soon we can see in that fire the things that we dearly need.
The Fire
We are brought by Spirit through the Fire of Life, and it is so because we are meant to grow in this lifetime and are meant to be the very example of the All That Is. We are the representation of Life itself, and through us all are the lessons that are meant to be held true to, lest we bear those lessons again.
This post is not meant to be taken as my lessening the constant and throbbing beat of the pain within. It is meant to show all of us that through the fire we are meant to be made brilliant, meant to, at the end of the lessons at hand, shine brightly like the Sun even though on the inside the only thing burning, it seems, is the constant and ever glowing fire that rages. We rarely know what to do with that fire, with that heat, and most of the time we allow it to simply burn us, and eventually, we burn out.
Take this as being the thing that you needed, the catalyst to the healing of your own wounds and the utilization, rather than the quelling, of the Fire in the Belly....
Learn that you are not burning from the Fire, but that you are being made brilliant in the heat of the flames, like the purest of Silver, and being made more the beautiful Soul that you are.
It does not take away from the pain within...it merely makes it shine brilliant and gorgeous like so many diamonds.
So, shine on you crazy diamond...
I Love You All !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
"...lucky I'm sane after all I've been through...I can't complain but sometimes I still do. Life's been good to me so far..." (Joe Walsh's "Life's been good to me")
I will be the last person to tell anyone else how to deal with their losses and expect that the way that I deal with mine they can also deal with theirs. That is not giving other people their birth right of grieving, of being angry for the losses they have incurred, for being in the middle of a hurt that they could not have imagined coming to their lives. Not one of us on the planet does not go through some sort of loss in our lives. Sometimes those losses are torture, and sometimes those losses just plain old suck and are a pain in the rear end.
All the time, though, those losses serve us up with the option to do something about the pain, and by doing something about the pain I do not mean that a person needs to go out into the world and numb their pain by replacing the loss with some other thing...like overindulgence, addiction, self-mutilation. By doing something about the pain I mean that in that pain we have to think that there is a message in it for us, we have to believe that in that pain we are meant to grow forward, to show our Light through it all and still be able to lift our head in the morning knowing that we have a purpose in this lifetime and fully knowing that even though we have suffered any loss, Spirit has us. All of us. We have to know within us that there is a big giant reason that we have to experience the big giant losses, and believe it when I say that in this last month alone I have been blessed with people who have experienced losses so big and so ...gnarly...that to believe that any of them could have fathomed that they would be able to deal with their own pain in a way that blesses the world, including and most of all, blessing themselves...while I will not call it an impossible thing that they have turned their grief and their pain into the beginnings of a beautiful work of Soulfulness, I will call it a Miracle.
Miracles....the other thing that "happens"...
I have been witness to a whole lot of miraculous things happening, and this past week was not an exception. I saw a new client turn her brand new pain into something delightfully gorgeous in nature and totally giant in terms of Aloha. I watched over the last few months a client who is now one of my best pals turn himself from a mass of inner turmoil to taking the steps he knows he needs to in order for his life to become all that it is meant to be and it is a beautiful thing. I have watched yet another person, also a guy, go from being a target of verbal slings and arrows into the Soul Warrior that he was born to be. And the miracles, they just keep on happening.
The Miracles keep happening, and it is awesome to see that there are people who know this about themselves, and if they do not know this there are folks like me who are too happy to let them know that yes, indeed and in fact, you, me, we all are the Miracle waiting to happen, all the time, everyday. This might sound like it is crazy, but in the losses that we each suffer, big or small, temporary or permanent, lie the seeds of our own greatness.
The Seeds of Our Own Greatness
I do not even want to begin to compare my own losses to those of others, because my losses can be replaced, but there are people who read this blog who I know well of their losses, and their losses are huge and varied. Yet, it is in those very losses that we find the very seeds of greatness that beg to be sown so that the fruits of those labors can be seen, can be witnessed by all, and can be taken as a blessing that these people who hurt so badly can rise above their pain and their agony, become one with the thing that could have eaten their lives but the thing that would not be allowed to do that.
In their pain and in their struggle to feel something else, in their struggle to make sense of the loss, and in their striving to do what is right and best for their own lives, they rise. They rise like the very Phoenix from the very ashes which were caused by the fires of life. Yet they do not realize that in that fire they were made stunning by God. In those fires they were refined and made ready to be all the gift to the world that they were meant to be. These people...those who have been refined by the Fire of their lives...these people are the ones who have been called upon to be the leaders among us, for these have been the very ones who have fought their way back to wholeness and while they may not be completely and totally whole and healed at this point in time, they Know in the Bones of their Souls that they are going to get there and that they are going to make their lives the living testimony to the beauty which is borne, sometimes, from the losses.
We can only deal with so much before we are brought to a place inside of us that calls upon our ability to stare the pain in the face and stare it down, make it bleed and make it crumble like it made us crumble. We all strive for that, strive to make that one face, not to the rest of the world, but to our very selves, because sometimes, most of the time, in some cases all of the time, we are our own worst enemy and we are the very thing that causes the Miracle to be delayed in some fashion. The truth is that it is not delayed, but that it has fruitioned into something that we cannot understand, and again the process of refining us through the fire begins, and soon we can see in that fire the things that we dearly need.
The Fire
We are brought by Spirit through the Fire of Life, and it is so because we are meant to grow in this lifetime and are meant to be the very example of the All That Is. We are the representation of Life itself, and through us all are the lessons that are meant to be held true to, lest we bear those lessons again.
This post is not meant to be taken as my lessening the constant and throbbing beat of the pain within. It is meant to show all of us that through the fire we are meant to be made brilliant, meant to, at the end of the lessons at hand, shine brightly like the Sun even though on the inside the only thing burning, it seems, is the constant and ever glowing fire that rages. We rarely know what to do with that fire, with that heat, and most of the time we allow it to simply burn us, and eventually, we burn out.
Take this as being the thing that you needed, the catalyst to the healing of your own wounds and the utilization, rather than the quelling, of the Fire in the Belly....
Learn that you are not burning from the Fire, but that you are being made brilliant in the heat of the flames, like the purest of Silver, and being made more the beautiful Soul that you are.
It does not take away from the pain within...it merely makes it shine brilliant and gorgeous like so many diamonds.
So, shine on you crazy diamond...
I Love You All !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
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Saturday, January 19, 2013
Tough Enough...
For those who are still clueless...
"...I'd put out a burning building with a shovel and dirt and not even worry about getting hurt...ain't that tough enough?..."("Tough Enough," by The Fabulous Thunderbirds)
There is a myriad feeling of people finally getting a clue, and at the same time there is a cluelessness that permeates that screams of the Ego feeling its way around us all collectively and while there are plenty of us who "get it" in terms of what is happening at this time on planet Earth, there are a bunch of us STILL who are just choosing to be clueless rather than electing to roll with the changes and have instead chosen to remain clueless.
Here is some news for you all...all you clueless people who actually have a clue - choose to get THIS particular clue already, would you? Choose to know that the options you have been given only look like they suck but in reality they contain the very lessons that you need in order to grow forward, contain in them the things that you need to learn about your damned self. Yeah...I know...it is so much easier and way more comfortable to just stay like you are. I mean, yes, you made it this far in life, and yes, you did so unscathed, and yes, you have even managed to stay within your right mind through it all, even though you questioned your own right-mindedness over and over again. Yep, you can stay like you are, and still feel all the "ugh" that you have been and still have to face, again and again, that one thing that keeps rearing its head to you and that you just refuse to look at and take on. You keep running away from the change.
Stop running already. You are wearing holes in your shoes.
You can keep on running...
You can continue to get your Forrest Gump on and keep runnin' and runnin' and not care to stop. Yet if you keep running you are going to deplete yourself, and if you deplete yourself you are going to wear yourself down in every manner you can think of. If you wear yourself down in every manner that you can think of you are not going to have the strength and neither the energy to pick yourself back up and run in the right direction.
The right direction is the direction that hurts and sucks most of the time, because the right direction leads us to that place where, whether we realize it or not, and no matter how much it hurts and sucks for us to be heading right into what we think of as being our own personal hell. Yet, it isn't that at all. It is not a personal hell if what is there that we refuse to look at is something that we have turned our attention away from, and the reason that our attention keeps getting drawn to and repelled away from the thing that we run away from is because that one thing actually NEEDS our attention. Think about it...you keep turning away, and there it is...you keep refusing and there it is...you keep on avoiding it and running from it and always, it is there, looming and large and ugly and there...kind of like that one guy at the office that keeps just showing up at the pub when you are not wanting to talk about office politics and wanna just get your party on. Yes, it is like that guy. It just keeps on showing up and you just keep on avoiding it.
Then, we start doing STUPID things...things that we know we should not and things that if we knew another way to be, would not be done...buuuuut....
If it is that we find ourselves unfulfilled by the over-indulgence of an activity, and our inner selves feel like that thing that we are doing to fill ourselves up is continuing to drain us, it is at that point that we need to stop running because the thing that we are running from, no matter how much we fear the work involved to get that one thing to be its own opposite, it will always be there. It is up to us and our need to change a thing or two about our lives and our selves, that makes us run. The thing that we stare at is actually the catalyst for our own growth and our own change.
The thing that we run from can be anything, can be a group of things, can be and usually is something that we dearly and truly need to attend to. We can keep on fearing what COULD happen or we can forge ahead and know that at least we took even the tiniest action toward change, toward being the whole person that we are incarnate.
Quit with the Tough ACT...
Stop being so...icky....that's right I said it now deal with it. You and your icky thoughts are what is keeping you from growing and going through what you are. You want to be better, but you don't want to do the work involved.
Do the work involved. It won't kill you, I promise.
Go through the tears, and through the fire of the pain...again...it will not hurt you with anything that you are not meant to hurt from.
Do what you must, unless you like what you are going through now and like the idea that you WILL go through it again.
Knock it off with the idea that you need to be outwardly tough, because being outwardly tough means that you are like jelly-filled hard candy...hard on the outside, but squishy and gooey in the middle.
You need to go through things. All of us do. The difference between you and everyone else going through stuff is that they are tough enough.
You aren't...I can help you with that, but I promise that even as I am a nice teacher, I am one who will make you go through all your own slings and arrows, your own hell of your own making, so that you can see where it is that you are believing that which is not the very truth of you...and with that much said...do not forget...
I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
"...I'd put out a burning building with a shovel and dirt and not even worry about getting hurt...ain't that tough enough?..."("Tough Enough," by The Fabulous Thunderbirds)
There is a myriad feeling of people finally getting a clue, and at the same time there is a cluelessness that permeates that screams of the Ego feeling its way around us all collectively and while there are plenty of us who "get it" in terms of what is happening at this time on planet Earth, there are a bunch of us STILL who are just choosing to be clueless rather than electing to roll with the changes and have instead chosen to remain clueless.
Here is some news for you all...all you clueless people who actually have a clue - choose to get THIS particular clue already, would you? Choose to know that the options you have been given only look like they suck but in reality they contain the very lessons that you need in order to grow forward, contain in them the things that you need to learn about your damned self. Yeah...I know...it is so much easier and way more comfortable to just stay like you are. I mean, yes, you made it this far in life, and yes, you did so unscathed, and yes, you have even managed to stay within your right mind through it all, even though you questioned your own right-mindedness over and over again. Yep, you can stay like you are, and still feel all the "ugh" that you have been and still have to face, again and again, that one thing that keeps rearing its head to you and that you just refuse to look at and take on. You keep running away from the change.
Stop running already. You are wearing holes in your shoes.
You can keep on running...
You can continue to get your Forrest Gump on and keep runnin' and runnin' and not care to stop. Yet if you keep running you are going to deplete yourself, and if you deplete yourself you are going to wear yourself down in every manner you can think of. If you wear yourself down in every manner that you can think of you are not going to have the strength and neither the energy to pick yourself back up and run in the right direction.
The right direction is the direction that hurts and sucks most of the time, because the right direction leads us to that place where, whether we realize it or not, and no matter how much it hurts and sucks for us to be heading right into what we think of as being our own personal hell. Yet, it isn't that at all. It is not a personal hell if what is there that we refuse to look at is something that we have turned our attention away from, and the reason that our attention keeps getting drawn to and repelled away from the thing that we run away from is because that one thing actually NEEDS our attention. Think about it...you keep turning away, and there it is...you keep refusing and there it is...you keep on avoiding it and running from it and always, it is there, looming and large and ugly and there...kind of like that one guy at the office that keeps just showing up at the pub when you are not wanting to talk about office politics and wanna just get your party on. Yes, it is like that guy. It just keeps on showing up and you just keep on avoiding it.
Then, we start doing STUPID things...things that we know we should not and things that if we knew another way to be, would not be done...buuuuut....
If it is that we find ourselves unfulfilled by the over-indulgence of an activity, and our inner selves feel like that thing that we are doing to fill ourselves up is continuing to drain us, it is at that point that we need to stop running because the thing that we are running from, no matter how much we fear the work involved to get that one thing to be its own opposite, it will always be there. It is up to us and our need to change a thing or two about our lives and our selves, that makes us run. The thing that we stare at is actually the catalyst for our own growth and our own change.
The thing that we run from can be anything, can be a group of things, can be and usually is something that we dearly and truly need to attend to. We can keep on fearing what COULD happen or we can forge ahead and know that at least we took even the tiniest action toward change, toward being the whole person that we are incarnate.
Quit with the Tough ACT...
Stop being so...icky....that's right I said it now deal with it. You and your icky thoughts are what is keeping you from growing and going through what you are. You want to be better, but you don't want to do the work involved.
Do the work involved. It won't kill you, I promise.
Go through the tears, and through the fire of the pain...again...it will not hurt you with anything that you are not meant to hurt from.
Do what you must, unless you like what you are going through now and like the idea that you WILL go through it again.
Knock it off with the idea that you need to be outwardly tough, because being outwardly tough means that you are like jelly-filled hard candy...hard on the outside, but squishy and gooey in the middle.
You need to go through things. All of us do. The difference between you and everyone else going through stuff is that they are tough enough.
You aren't...I can help you with that, but I promise that even as I am a nice teacher, I am one who will make you go through all your own slings and arrows, your own hell of your own making, so that you can see where it is that you are believing that which is not the very truth of you...and with that much said...do not forget...
I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2013 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
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Thursday, January 17, 2013
The Time Has Come...it's time to Get Your God On !!
Pay Attention ...
"...it seems like too much Love is never enough...you'd better seek out another road because this one has ended abrupt..." ("Say Hello to Heaven," by Temple of the Dog)
There comes a time in all of our lives where we have to do things that we do not want to do. There are a lot of us who have lost a whole lot in our lives, too much to list here and sometimes, those losses are immeasurable and more than that, irreversible. However, that is not what I wanted to tell you all about today. No, today was different. In fact, daily I am reminded that sometimes we have to realize our Selves through other people...yes, including me.
I was blessed today by a person who I have known since long before the harshness that is Life happens upon any one of us. While I will not go on about telling anyone about this person's own harshness, I will go on to tell you that at this point she has become the one person with whom I can truly identify with a person being able to "get their God on," even though the thing that happened has affected her own life in a very marked way. It is not only because of her dedication that I know is there, but more, because there needs to be more people just like her on the planet, and aren't I a lucky chick...I get the work with these kinds of people everyday of my life. I get to be with Hawaiians at heart, with people whose losses are huge and life changing and whose goodness and light are as big and huge as their losses are.
These are the people with whom I hold the very closest of counsel with - the ones who have lost the most, and those who have lost the most in my own inner circle have already been witness in their own lives to the idea that once we give to others the goodness that is truly our very Selves, beautiful things begin to happen. While these beautiful things begin to happen it does not mean that the loss is the thing forgotten. Quite the opposite, in fact, because the loss becomes the catalyst for the healing that needs to take place, and more than that, the loss becomes, at that point, part of the reason for the beauty. This does not in any way take from the loss, because the loss is always going to be what it was meant to be. Sometimes, though, the beauty that is borne of the tragedy ...well, that's the most beautiful thing in the world to me, because it means that those people who have suffered their own tragedies have figured out the meaning of "gettin' your God on."
Gettin' Your God On...
"...This is how we do it ! All hands are in the air, and wave them from here to there If you're an O.G. mack or a wanna-be player You see the hood's been good to me Ever since I was a lower-case G..."
(Montell Jordan's "This is how we do it...")
Tragedy tends to make us do things that we might not otherwise, and tragedy makes us look into our own selves and makes us question God and get very, very, very luxuriantly angry with God, and not just any angry, but that certain type of angry that is velvety soft and hard like diamonds all at once. It is the kind of angry that makes us cry out in the middle of the night, wanting to know what it was that was so horrid that we did that would make God want us to hurt as badly as we do.
Ya know...I wanna sit here and tell you that I have that answer, but I know that I can't. I cannot sit here and tell anyone that what they have gone through is going to go away because that is not the truth. I can, however, sit here and tell you all that there is a way to channel that hurt and that anguish, that pain and even the memory that anyone of us has of those things that broke our very Souls in two. That one thing is called Gettin' Your God On.
The way that you Get Your God On is simple - first, you take your pain and accept it, know it feel it and Be with it. Yes, Be with your pain, because that is where the truth is at, and in order to Get one's God On one must also be able to deal effectively with what has been presented to us. We have to make it through the pain anyway, so there is nothing better than being able to share it with other people after it has been transformed into the beautiful thing that will at least make it more tolerable.
"Gettin' Your God On means that the pain that we have and all the other things that break our hearts and hurt us to the core of us can be turned into something beautiful. Beauty is in art, is in song, is in words, is in giving, is in sharing and is the very core essence that is the Aloha in us all.
There are a few people who are reading this who know who they are, know who this was written about, and yes, there are more than only one person who this was written about. We can all take what we have and share it, and give it meaning and give it a new Truth, one that, while the pain is the thing that gives us the fuel to step out of our fears and give to other people what it is that they might be able to do something with, might be able to make it through one more day of their lives knowing for sure that in the pain, and in the loss, and in the heartbreaking moments that we all go through, that someone cares and wants us to care and wants to help us remember who we are and lead us back to that place where God lives within us.
This is what being part of the bigger Tribe is all about - the ability to Get Your God On, first in our own inner circle, and then what we do within our own circle is we give these people who we care so much about the thing that they need to make it out there in the big fat world and be all they can be, pain still there, but transformed and easier to manage because now there is this light that cannot be made less bright, this purpose that was borne of loss, of shame and of things that no one wants to go through. But we go through it all and in the end we find out that what we have gone through was not without good purpose.
SO, with that said, and written, and with that being my ultimate Truth - that I want us all to do a little bit of Gettin' all of our God On, I will leave you with the idea that while what we go through that causes us to want to Get our God On, the sweetness with it all is that we know that we are blessed and touched and prompted by the heavens to get out there in the wilderness that is our Life, that is our own 40 days and nights with the devil that wants to crush us...nope...not today, dude...not ever again, period..
Don't be scared...just get on out there and Get Your God On already...the world is waitin' !! If you don't know how to do that or cannot come up with a really cool way to Get Your God On...hit me up...I will help you figure it out.
Get on out there...hurry up, y'all...go on and Get Your God On !! The world is waiting!!
I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
"...it seems like too much Love is never enough...you'd better seek out another road because this one has ended abrupt..." ("Say Hello to Heaven," by Temple of the Dog)
There comes a time in all of our lives where we have to do things that we do not want to do. There are a lot of us who have lost a whole lot in our lives, too much to list here and sometimes, those losses are immeasurable and more than that, irreversible. However, that is not what I wanted to tell you all about today. No, today was different. In fact, daily I am reminded that sometimes we have to realize our Selves through other people...yes, including me.
I was blessed today by a person who I have known since long before the harshness that is Life happens upon any one of us. While I will not go on about telling anyone about this person's own harshness, I will go on to tell you that at this point she has become the one person with whom I can truly identify with a person being able to "get their God on," even though the thing that happened has affected her own life in a very marked way. It is not only because of her dedication that I know is there, but more, because there needs to be more people just like her on the planet, and aren't I a lucky chick...I get the work with these kinds of people everyday of my life. I get to be with Hawaiians at heart, with people whose losses are huge and life changing and whose goodness and light are as big and huge as their losses are.
These are the people with whom I hold the very closest of counsel with - the ones who have lost the most, and those who have lost the most in my own inner circle have already been witness in their own lives to the idea that once we give to others the goodness that is truly our very Selves, beautiful things begin to happen. While these beautiful things begin to happen it does not mean that the loss is the thing forgotten. Quite the opposite, in fact, because the loss becomes the catalyst for the healing that needs to take place, and more than that, the loss becomes, at that point, part of the reason for the beauty. This does not in any way take from the loss, because the loss is always going to be what it was meant to be. Sometimes, though, the beauty that is borne of the tragedy ...well, that's the most beautiful thing in the world to me, because it means that those people who have suffered their own tragedies have figured out the meaning of "gettin' your God on."
Gettin' Your God On...
"...This is how we do it ! All hands are in the air, and wave them from here to there If you're an O.G. mack or a wanna-be player You see the hood's been good to me Ever since I was a lower-case G..."
(Montell Jordan's "This is how we do it...")
Tragedy tends to make us do things that we might not otherwise, and tragedy makes us look into our own selves and makes us question God and get very, very, very luxuriantly angry with God, and not just any angry, but that certain type of angry that is velvety soft and hard like diamonds all at once. It is the kind of angry that makes us cry out in the middle of the night, wanting to know what it was that was so horrid that we did that would make God want us to hurt as badly as we do.
Ya know...I wanna sit here and tell you that I have that answer, but I know that I can't. I cannot sit here and tell anyone that what they have gone through is going to go away because that is not the truth. I can, however, sit here and tell you all that there is a way to channel that hurt and that anguish, that pain and even the memory that anyone of us has of those things that broke our very Souls in two. That one thing is called Gettin' Your God On.
The way that you Get Your God On is simple - first, you take your pain and accept it, know it feel it and Be with it. Yes, Be with your pain, because that is where the truth is at, and in order to Get one's God On one must also be able to deal effectively with what has been presented to us. We have to make it through the pain anyway, so there is nothing better than being able to share it with other people after it has been transformed into the beautiful thing that will at least make it more tolerable.
"Gettin' Your God On means that the pain that we have and all the other things that break our hearts and hurt us to the core of us can be turned into something beautiful. Beauty is in art, is in song, is in words, is in giving, is in sharing and is the very core essence that is the Aloha in us all.
There are a few people who are reading this who know who they are, know who this was written about, and yes, there are more than only one person who this was written about. We can all take what we have and share it, and give it meaning and give it a new Truth, one that, while the pain is the thing that gives us the fuel to step out of our fears and give to other people what it is that they might be able to do something with, might be able to make it through one more day of their lives knowing for sure that in the pain, and in the loss, and in the heartbreaking moments that we all go through, that someone cares and wants us to care and wants to help us remember who we are and lead us back to that place where God lives within us.
This is what being part of the bigger Tribe is all about - the ability to Get Your God On, first in our own inner circle, and then what we do within our own circle is we give these people who we care so much about the thing that they need to make it out there in the big fat world and be all they can be, pain still there, but transformed and easier to manage because now there is this light that cannot be made less bright, this purpose that was borne of loss, of shame and of things that no one wants to go through. But we go through it all and in the end we find out that what we have gone through was not without good purpose.
SO, with that said, and written, and with that being my ultimate Truth - that I want us all to do a little bit of Gettin' all of our God On, I will leave you with the idea that while what we go through that causes us to want to Get our God On, the sweetness with it all is that we know that we are blessed and touched and prompted by the heavens to get out there in the wilderness that is our Life, that is our own 40 days and nights with the devil that wants to crush us...nope...not today, dude...not ever again, period..
Don't be scared...just get on out there and Get Your God On already...the world is waitin' !! If you don't know how to do that or cannot come up with a really cool way to Get Your God On...hit me up...I will help you figure it out.
Get on out there...hurry up, y'all...go on and Get Your God On !! The world is waiting!!
I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine 'Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. If you would like information about "ROCK your NUPTIALS" Weddings or simply just to contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
(c) 2012 Roxanne K. Cottell. All Rights Reserved
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