Itchy twitchy icky nasty but all needed...

That tension you are feeling right now...

Yes. Yes, you are feeling some planetary pull right now, and yes, you are irritated and you are weepy and you are a bag full of mixed emotions. Even those who live their lives from the Soul, out, are feeling what is collectively the very energy of the moment. And the energy of the moment is erratic. There are those of us who know all about this madness, and others of us who greet this maddening energetic mix of "I Love You/I want you to cease to be, " and "come here, no get away."

I promise, while it might seem a bit on the deep end of the pool and while it is that one moment you are grandly in Love with Life and all its inhabitants, and the next minute you wish there were no laws regarding hunting other humans for sport (you know it is true, some of you), the truth is that this is normal. The truth is that we are at this moment flushing out all the Soul's toxins because very dearly it is that time, right now, in the Now, that change is happening.

Your whiny demeanor followed by your "kick you in your okole" demeanor and then which is followed by laughing like a loon and then the next minute you are thinking that you are the very loonies that Pink Floyd talks about in the song Brain Damage...all meant. That's right, I said it, and you can either deal with it or cry about it or whatever, because no matter what, this is normal and you are just fine and safe in the arms of the Cosmos.

The tension you are feeling at the moment is called Growth, can be thought as being evolution, change, growing pains, whatever, and no matter how much any one of us wants to avoid it, it is here, it is real, and a lot of people are stuck in the middle of their own version of it. For some of us it is in the manner that is those in our lives who can be thought of as our "elders," while for others it is that group of people who are Hanai to us, who were our students at one time, and who we consider as being family, mostly in a parental type way, and many of us are just as confused as we have ever been. There are some of us who are physically ill right now and that is on a wide scale, ranging from mild to life-threatening, and there are those of us displaying attitudes which are so not the norm for who we usually are.

Yes, we are all mightily uncomfortable, and yes, we are all very excited. Yes, we are all sad, on the one end, and on the other end, we are happy as larks. We are all in this madness called evolution together, and the only way that we are going to get through it is also together, with each other and with the truth that is the idea that we are going to be just fine, no matter what happens. Some of us are sensing things we do not recognize and this is okay, and others of us cannot understand why it is that every time we think about a person, we are, at the next moment, dancing gleefully to a song that both we and the other person in our thoughts both love and for whom that song holds much meaning. There are some of us who already knew all about this thing called "The Shift," and even though we are terribly uncomfortable, ready to rip the head off of those who we are most in contention with at the moment, even though we might not know why, we knew a long time ago that this, The Shift, was going to come on a whole lot more intensely than we imagined it would, but none the less, we are fine. We are okay because we know that soon enough, it will - the entirety of Life on Earth - balance out in the most magnificent way that it can.

We are all learning patience, and acceptance, mainly of the things that we cannot change. We are learning to be with one another without judgment, not only of each other, but more, ourselves. We are learning the meaning of Aloha (Love) as well as learning to use those things and ways of being which we have always known all the way to the very cellular level of us. We are learning what we need to do so that we can also know who we are in relation to one another. We are learning those lessons which we did not want to learn in the past, and we are reliving days gone by, not only for the lesson involved, but more, just because for some of us, what was happening twenty years or so ago, those things still are very much in play for us, and all we needed was that simple little reminder that yes, this is who we are and who we have always been.

We are learning, once and for all, those things that our egos told us we already knew about or worse, did not need to know, and we are learning that we are not better than another, that we are not anything more than what Spirit has chosen for us to Be in this Lifetime, even if what we are meant to be is a good example. We are learning that we need each other, and we are learning that this body we live in is not the truth of us and that it is only the thing which would be most effective and helpful in our ability to do the work we came to this lifetime to do. We are being taught, we are being shown, and we are being stretched, and we are growing, and it is happening all at one time, all during this time called "Now." Now is when the choices that we make for whenever "then" is, and Now is the time that we know that we have. We know that we no longer have yesterday and that nothing can be done for what has passed. We cannot live back there, and the Now is showing us this. We know that we cannot depend on the outcome that we want in the future, that we can aim as high as we can for that manifestation of what we desire in our lives to be, but for the most part, we know that all we have is right this minute. And right this minute is the only time that we really have any control over.

Right this minute there are people who are angry that they cannot change the past, and right this minute there are people who are wrapping their entirety of being around an outcome that they see and want very badly...and right this minute, there are people who are, sadly, no longer caring about much, and it was all because they chose to regret what was and hoped too dearly for and are hoping to dearly for an outcome that they want and see but cannot be too sure of coming into Being.

Take heart, folks...while it is that Now might suck, the truth is that right Now is all we have, and in that manner, right Now is a beautiful thing indeed, and it is beautiful because regardless of all the things that make us different, knowing that ,collectively, Now is all we have is quite a powerful thought to think...

Imagine if we all took that one thought and just accepted it, collectively, the good that it would do for us all...

Think about it...

I Love You All !
ROX

To learn more about the area's ONLY Healing with Hula program, "Na Hula O Ka Wahine'ui," please visit The Sisterhood of the Soul's website at www.mapu70.wix.com/sisterhoodofthesoul. 

The original Southern Plantation Preacher Lady, Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell and her Kindred Souls of the South's Facebook page can be visited and "liked" by going to www.facebook.com/KindredSoulsOfTheSouth

For information or to set an appointment with either Rev. Roxanne Cottell or Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell please send an email to either of them here in facebook by going to:

Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell  : facebook.com/spiritfish

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell : facebook.com/reverendroxie

To contact Rev. Roxanne Cottell (Reverend Roxie) please send an email to reverendroxie22@gmail.com

The Healer

 Heal...

"Can I have some remedy? Remedy for me, please?" (The Black Crowes, "Remedy")

I won't lie about it - it took me a LOT of years of heartache to know that I was well on the Path to the thing that I needed the most, which was my own healing. It was my own healing which prompted me to seek out the teachings of other healers, and it was my own Soul's ailment which make it so that at this time, a time at which, apparently, Spirit saw that I needed something to hang onto.

I needed something to hang onto that came from me but that did not involve an OB/GYN, and I needed something to call my own that came from me that only I knew and know about, and that is particular to me only. I needed to seek my own counsel, and I needed to know, for sure, that this - the Healer's Path - was the Path that I needed to seek out. So, I did.

I sought out the Path to becoming a Healer quite by accident. It came to me, not in a vision, but in the manner that is hands-on, much like a doctor. And by "hands on," I mean that I had to get my hands on situations that were in my life, that were invading me, invading who I truly Am, and were it not for a few caring individuals who saw this in me, I would not be the Healer I have become, thus far, and would not have the drive to continue on that Path to the Healer's Way of Life and of Living.

We all need a remedy of sorts, not only for our physical maladies, but for the maladies that make us cry and think that we are somehow weak. That we cry tells us that we are anything but weak, that we are strong in a way that not a lot of people are, and that most of all, we know that our soul has been insulted. We know when our souls have been insulted because we get the distinct feeling of disgust followed by anger. We get angry when people insult our intelligence, and in our souls we know when people are trying to pull a fast one on us. I know it. You know it. Don't do it because it is not worth it. It makes people angry and it causes them to not trust us. If you are not ready to trust someone else, most assuredly it will be when you are at your most rock-bottom that you will decide that the option to choose is the one that puts you into contact with someone like me...a weirdo...a Spiritualist...a Healer, if you will.

A Healer...

I did not decide to be this person. It was chosen for me a long time ago, long before I even knew it was what I would be and would Love so much to do. It takes a person who has been through a whole lot, who has had to choose to take the Path that is not so easy, the Path back to Wholeness and the Path that leads us right back to ourselves. I did not come to the conclusion very lightly and neither happily when it was decided, not by me, that my lot in life would be to serve others, not only others who ail, but others who need something done for them. This is what a healer does - we heal the holes in our lives, and then we go out into the world and teach others how to do the same thing.

We are all Healers. Some of us use music to heal others, while others of us are the sort who are healers disguised as MD's, Nurses, and health professionals, and yet others of us like me, who delve into the ugliness that resides in the bowels of the Soul and bring it to the surface so as to get a look at the monsters that have eaten away at the sanity within, the safety within, the Home, within. A Healer is not someone who wears a mask, literally or otherwise, and a healer is not a person who possesses anything different than anyone else does. A Healer is a person who is willing to prove to people that they were worth the time for Spirit to bring them into this lifetime, and through their birth, their mothers were able to do at least that one great act of otherworldliness, and through their birth, it may be that the act of bringing life into the world is the act of healing needed not only for her, but also, for that baby.

When a child is born, the mother is taken from the world of the maiden to the world of the Mother, and as such there are things that no longer apply to her, even though, paradoxically, they applied just a few hours ago. The act of birthing a child on its own is heroic, because many people die in childbirth. It is heroic because it is the death of one life to the birth of two brand new ones. The mother goes from the life of the maiden and through the death of same said maiden, and is, in one push, brought squarely and surely to the Path that is that of the Mother. For the mother, there is both a death and a birth, not only of her child, but of her self as mother.

We become healed through our actions that cause us to do things a different way, to think in a manner that is not the same as it was a little while ago. We heal ourselves through our own acts of redemption toward others and we give ourselves a brand new shot and becoming, everyday of our lives, this newly birthed creature whose Path is sure and strong. We learn through healing that other people are the catalyst to other, bigger things that we are all meant to learn, not because we have to, but because we are meant to. Being meant to means that there is a greater sense of need within while feeling like we have to do anything gives us a great weight to carry, a burden, if you will. And no one needs one more burden to shoulder.

We learn to heal ourselves, not with medicine that can be seen or smelled or felt, but with medicine which comes from within. We learn to heal ourselves so that we may, if we are so inclined to, go out into the wilderness that is our own, into the deep blackness that is the fear of the unknown, to heal others.

If we are so inclined to, we reach out and give of ourselves so that others might understand their own pain and to gain the ability to see with eyes that are not of this world and to gather strength to get past the monster that ate our lives, even if we allowed it. If we are so inclined, we take what has happened to us and we use it and bring to the rest of the world in the form of the words "I Love You" and we, through that one act of thoughtfulness, that one act of personal bravery, and through the sacrifice of our own Self for another person, while we remain to never-mind the idea that these people might not accept our gift of healing through the Soul...yet, still, we remain inclined...

I am so inclined...

I Love You All !
ROX

We Are All, in some way, Hanai

To be Hanai is the greatest form of Unconditional Love

I have many, many Hanai family members. My tribe is large, is a maddening mixture of many different cultures, beliefs, and filled with the richness that is other people. These other people know who they are, and these other people who do not share blood ties with me know that I love them, deeply, dearly and for real. Lots of us come from very damaged beginnings shared with various and very damaged people. This is the reason that most of us see our friends as our family, as our ohana, as our tribe.

To Hanai someone means to adopt them into your family. Being 'hanai' means that someone Loved you enough to call you one of their own, and while it is that my own Hanai Tribe is large and limitless, it does not mean that for each person with whom I share a bond does not get my full neither my undying attention. To be hanai means that even though we have lost someone or a few someones, whether that loss is the physical reality or is the reality caused by a division of thought and belief, it is never a problem to have the latter of the losses when we know that out there in the great big world there is a family for us, there is our own Tribe and our own Ohana. We all belong somewhere, and sometimes where we belong is not given to the whims of the biological and hereditary truth of us. Sometimes when we are small kids and we have been hurt by those who are meant to care for us, by those who shun our ability to Love them, and when we are, at that point, a lonely child, we find that there are our friends. These are the people who I have Hanai'd into my life, who I have turned into my family, and for whom there is not a lot I will not do if it is within my power to.

To Love someone so very much and to know them better than one does one's own blood relations is the most glorious of all Loves, because it means that someone decided a long time ago that they knew you and they loved you like you were one of their own. To care about another human being enough to call them your brother, call them your sister, your "calabash" cousin...all Hanai and all the gloriously and unconditionally energetically inclined Love that is the All we That We Are.

To Love a Person as entirely as one would one's own blood kin is to accept them into the Soul that is your collective, is the one that you are part of and the one that perhaps you were born into. I have many Hanai'd Children, and all of them knows that I have a special place for them in my heart and soul and life and Family. They know this absolutely. I have many Hanai'd Brothers, Sisters, Aunties and Uncles, Tutu Ladies, Tutu Papas, Cousins and the Like, and there contained within this very special, tiny little microcosm that is the sample for the entirety of the Whole of Us lies that which is the catalyst for that which we are All part of, That Which is Known simply as being "The One."

We are all, in one way or another, Hanai. There is a reason for those with whom we share a common special social spiritual bond - because we all need to be part of a Tribe, and we all need to know that somewhere on this planet there is a group of people who share a sameness of Love and that sameness of Love outweighs anything else, and in some cases, anything else includes sharing a sameness of heredity. Blood rarely matters. Only Love Matters. Only the Love that we have for one another matters. Only the idea that who we are is perfect in the imperfections that only we see. We only have each other, and that means that somehow, we are all Hanai to one another.

No matter who we are, or who they are, someone else on this planet is just like you, or they know that one day, you are going to evolve into Who you are meant to be. The only way that happens is that as readily as you accepted the fact that you have flaws, you must also and readily accept that you are Loved, dearly.If you are reading this, and it means anything at all to you, never worry that you do not have family, that you are not part of your own Tribe of Nations, that you are not part of your own bloodline's ability to find sameness rather than differences.

No matter where you are, someone Loves You. Someone, somewhere Hanai'd you...

And you know who you are where I am concerned...you know you are Hanai....you know you are my Tribe...

I Love You All !!
ROX

...like puzzle pieces...

How is your awareness these days?

I am almost positive that the things that you are thinking about these days, even though they are the same things that they were about six months ago, they are not the same thoughts about those things. Think about it (do I not LOVE saying that? haha)...think back six months to today's date and about where you were in an emotional sense and you will know that since that time you have grown in your thinking. In fact, you have grown and evolved SO much in the way that you think and do things that to go backward to a way that you knew was the very truth of you is a virtual impossibility because you have, in the time which has passed, become a lot more refined in your thought processes and you have become more aware, not only of the things that you know you do not like and would rather have less of in your life, you are also now more aware of the things that you desire and more, how to keep yourself free from the things that insult your soul.

An Insult to the Soul

For me to have to go through what it was that I elected to put myself through beginning in August of 2012 is like my asking to go back to the biblical vomit that the (for real now) Proverb-ial dog in that bible reference likens mankind to when we choose to go backward to the things that might have worked for us back then but now they only serve to remind of who we are no longer. My best example is that these last three days I have been given proof AND chance to tell many of my students that they have been through a whole lot, but that now is that time when it all seems like it is the same, the things that broke us are here again, and this time we are more inclined to not allow those same demons back into the closets of our minds where some of our monsters still live. It is the demons which we allow and believe that make it all a pain in the rear end when it comes to our evolution.

When you feel like you have to explain yourself about anything that you have asked someone else to do on your behalf, and you know that you and that other person or those other people have evolved to the point where whatever action taken, NOT to remedy but to soothe, temporarily, the aching within, you know that also those same people who are not as evolved will come back at you, roaring and raging from the fires which are set by the Ego. Our Ego is a funny little creature. Our Ego is there to protect us but sometimes, and in fact, more times than not, our Ego is what gets us into all kinds of different sorts of trouble. Sometimes we want to think that we know what is best for us, for our families, and sometimes it is not the words of others coming to us but that which we speak to them that proverbially buries us.

That's right...sometimes it is the words that we tell others when they ask the questions that we have wanted to ask, the very questions that we need to answer ourselves that make it so that we learn when and where and why it was that we chose to insult our own soul. We insult our soul when our physical selves and our egos want what they want, and when it is that we are thinking that there will be one kind of outcome to something that is not a small, but a monumentally huge, outcome to our lives and the thing that we are looking for, we end up with a let down, and that let down is always preceded by our Soul knowing that we should not have trusted what our Ego told us to begin with.

Then there are those times when you yourself are the one to tell people "I told you so" and even though they know that you are right, they insist that no, you are not, and that no, you were never right. The "I Told You So" is the catalyst to things that our Ego needs to learn, because it is in that moment where we are being asked by our guides to either listen, take heed to what our soul is telling us, or get okole sore (butt hurt) because our Ego is so worried that what we are choosing without its help that we just have to save face in front of people who we never realize would never do that same thing for us were the tables reversed.

When we feel nasty about something, all the way down to our core, this is the sign that we have dearly suffered an insult to our very soul. We know it is the truth when we feel awful about something and the only thing that we can feel is that feeling. It is the feeling that somehow there is an absoluteness in the idea and the measure that who we are has been compromised, that what we believe is the truth has been altered AND questioned, by us even, and that alone is a big enough infraction to the Soul.

Everything Old is not only new again, but it is improved

It is not a secret to anyone who really truly knows me, who knows all my secrets and heartaches, everything that makes me laugh like a maniac, that I like being someone who helps other people make the old brand new. By this I mean that those issues that people think are issues are not really issues but instead are facets of life that some folks just do not understand and they are not understanding it because the simple fact is that rarely is any one of us not human enough to be able to look at our own selves objectively. There are not a whole lot of us who can look at a situation that we are right in the middle of and be able to take away the emotional energy from it. It just won't happen. It is why every good healer also has healers who they work with. Every good healer is prone to having bouts of human beingness every now and again, and the most of us are more inclined to tell a person that when they hurt physically, it means that somewhere on the inside they hurt emotionally.

By thinking about a thing in a different manner, we allow the Light of new possibility into our lives. That which we thought was Love was anything but, and that which we thought of as not being the truth in Love is actually the truth indeed. When we think about it all, we can see things travel in a circle, that where we were we have revisited and where we have been in the past, now that it is revisited, we find ourselves there again but that this time around we can see it as being brand new, and the difference is not because the situation is brand new, but more that we are.

When we can think of ourselves as the one missing component of the newness, we can also see the entirety of our situation with us still in the middle of it all but totally at peace with it all. We can see that everything truly does happen for a reason, and that while we might not always understand the reason most of the time we accept it and see the gift that is contained within it. When a circle begins, and we recognize that we have been right where we are now and we can see, too, that this time we are the difference, it truly makes a big fat difference all the way around. When we can see where we have been and can recognize it and can look at it from a new place, we can also see that there are a lot more options to that one thing than we thought. The reason is because we have chosen a new thought about it, and really, most of the time, that is all it takes.

When we stop ourselves from being able to see past anything at all with eyes that are only choosing to see where we have been without seeing again that we can do it different, this is when the heaviness that is the sameness of last time sets in. However, the thing that a lot of us forget about is that there is a reason that we are seeing our circle for the first time in a different manner and too, we can also see that since we are now more willing to approach it in a manner that was not like the past, we can also Know Hope. We can Know Faith. We can, at that point, also Know the richness that is having faith that everything turns out for the best, and that everything that needs to happen, happens.

Like pieces of an intricate puzzle made of the intimacies held with others, we find that we can be at home with ourselves, that we can be comfortable in our own skin and more than that, we find that there are others in our lives who came along for the ride and that somehow, they are a very important piece of the puzzle.

With that much said...you know it is the Truth...

I LOVE YOU ALL !!
ROX

To learn more about the area's ONLY Healing with Hula program, "Na Hula O Ka Wahine'ui," please visit The Sisterhood of the Soul's website at www.mapu70.wix.com/sisterhoodofthesoul. 

The original Southern Plantation Preacher Lady, Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell and her Kindred Souls of the South's Facebook page can be visited and "liked" by going to www.facebook.com/KindredSoulsOfTheSouth

For information or to set an appointment with either Rev. Roxanne Cottell or Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell please send an email to either of them here in facebook by going to:

Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell  : www.facebook.com/spiritfish

Rev. Roxanne K. Cottell : www.facebook.com/reverendroxie

To contact Rev. Roxanne Cottell (Reverend Roxie) please send an email to reverendroxie22@gmail.com

Love Conditional

The Problem is not that there is no Love, but that it is Love that comes with conditions

I love people and people know this. I say it often. I show it all the time. I let folks know the truth of me by letting them know that no matter what, the truth of them according to me is that they are Love, that they deserve to be Loved, and that they are at least worthy of Unconditional Love by me and by people like me.
There is so much in this lifetime that we have issues with, so much that we know is not appropriate according to who we are and what we each and independently stand for that we barely recognize Love when it is the truth of us.

Love is the Truth of Us

It is true - Love is indeed the very truth of us. It is the reason that we are each here, and it is the reason that we do the things that we do, not only for ourselves but also for the people in our lives who are the closest to us. Love becomes not only what and who we are when we show those closest to us that this is our truth, but Love becomes who and what we are in regards to other people. We know this, and if we don't know this, then there are people reading this who know this truth now and this truth now is that yes, you are also Love.

My only thought about how it is that we go about no longer knowing that we are Love is that somewhere in the history of us each, there was at least one person who was willing to make us prove to them that we were worthy of their love. When we have to prove to someone else that we are worthy of their truth in Love and we are hurt and we feel like we have to work for their Love, that is not Love, it is a condition.

It is a condition that we must adhere to and it is a condition that if we do not adhere to it, we will be, by the very energy that we are being given by these people, be given something that is there and is something that scars our soul by snuffing the light of our Spirit. Placing conditions on Love hurts us, hurts other people, makes us all feel like somehow we have to keep up with an ideal - someone else's ideal- of what Love is. And we expect people to Love us, all of us does. We expect that they Love us, and expect that they will do so with fervor and with abandon and then the reality of their truth in Love comes and smacks us with the hot spatula of the truth. The truth being that if we want their Love in completion, we have a few conditions to live up to.

Conditions

Love is the only Condition we need to be in. It is the only real thing and is the thing which heals us more than much else can, yet we hold back and we make those we expected to love us live by the rules of this thing called Love that we think is only between two people. We make it hard on others when we tell them that we Love them and then tell them that there is something that they need to do in order to have that Love in completion, and in reality, it is not total and neither the completeness that is the Love that we all each need, even from our Selves. We have this grand ability to choose, and always, those who are inclined to choose Love but only from their sense and their truth of it are not wholly Loving people and are not wholly Loving themselves either.

Placing conditions on Love cripples and blinds us. It cripples us down to the Bones of the Soul. It blinds us from the truth of us, of those in our awareness, of everything that is meant to be seen as the very truth of Love. We think we know what is best for us, which we do, but this makes us ignorant...blinded by what we think is the Light in us when in reality it is what is blocking that very Light from extending to others.

Love is the Un-Condition

In our society there are many physical conditions that were placed there within us by the conditions placed on Love. We have, as a whole, limited ourselves when it comes to loving other people fully and in the same manner that we desire to be Loved in return. We think of Love as something that needs to be proved, that needs to have a guarantee when really the only guarantee that we have is the Love that we have that we are meant to share with the rest of the world. Love is the great All That Is, and it is the one thing that makes us all Be, and the one thing that makes our lives the grandest example of Spirit. It is through our show of Aloha that people know that Love exists, that it is not only meant for a couple who are romantically involved.

I have much Love for all of humanity, and the human beings in my life know that I Love Them, each of them, down to the very marrow of the Soul and down into those secret places within where only certain people are allowed. I have no conditions for them other than that they need to give Love to everyone they come into contact with, and they know, too, that I am there and waiting with a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on so that they do not have to shoulder a burden that has become too much for them to bear all alone. They know that if I can do something for them to make their lives better, even if only for that moment, that I am there for them and that I am never going away. They know this, deeply, madly and truly they know this.

This is the measure of Love that I have for them, for us all, even and absolutely for myself.

Love You, and You will automatically Love All. You are the representation of The All That Is, and there is nothing and no one who can tell you that you are not, because those same people who would tell you that you are not are also a representation of the Divine within, of the Violet Flame which protects and of the Fire in the Belly which incites us to action and is the catalyst of every single created thing we see.

Love is not conditional, and should not be, and really, it is the only condition that we need to Be in.

I Love You All!!
ROX

Rev. Roxanne Cottell can be contacted regarding Spiritual Coaching Sessions, the Healing with Hula Program, Public Speaking and of course performing your wedding by clicking here . Please visit The Sisterhood of The Soul's Official Website by clicking here  Visit The Sisterhood of The Soul's Faecbook Page. .Please also visit the partner Ministry of The Sisterhood of The Soul, The Original Southern Plantation Preacher Lady, Rev. Vel-Danielle Gambrell's   Kindred Souls of The South of Southern Louisiana Facebook Page. 

Walk The Path of The Few

Regardless of what the issue is, Spirit is always there

There is no doubt about it - there is a whole lot going on in the lives of humanity right now. That which is not meant to be is no longer or is on its way to being no longer. The things that do not serve us, or perhaps, the things that we were meant to exact, that we were meant to bring to others, anything at all that has to do with our being in service to others is going on, and my proof is that collectively we are not aware, or at least not accepting, the idea that the heartache, the pining for things that do not prompt us to become irritated or irate, is all meant, and meant for reasons that have yet to be revealed.

The things that we have asked to learn are not the same things that we are directly being taught. The things that we are being taught are not entirely the things that we need to learn, and anymore now, more and more, in fact, the things that we are learning from those bringing the lesson to us are also and conversely the very things that they are also learning. Where there is hurt, there is also hurting going on in someone else, quite possibly someone who is close to us or has been, for a long time, very close to us. It can be a coworker, a family member, a friend, our pets....whatever it is, we are meant to walk through this proverbial fire so as to come out of it alive, refined, and very much gleaming like the Sun from whence we came.

BUT...that doesn't mean that any of us are wise to the idea that while it seems we walk alone, Spirit is there. No matter what, in fact, Spirit is there. Spirit is there and listening, not only to our pleas and not only to the sound of our tears as they silently, to our ears, echo the heartache and the very doldrums handed down by the heavens. Spirit is there - right there - carrying us through the fire which is meant to scorch us so that when we are done with the madness that seems not to end, we are stronger for having gone through it all, stronger for the fires which burned but which also cleansed the earth that we each are. Without the fire, there is no cleansing of the earth, and without the earth, there is no perpetuation of Life.

When we go through things, we have to choose to take it as our being taught by Spirit, as our being led through the Fire to the Promised Land that we Are. If we are willing to celebrate when things are wonderful, then we must also be willing to go through the lessons and the heartaches which accompany all who we are, all what we are meant for, and all that we contribute. If we are willing to know abundance, then in order to know what is other than that, we must suffer through the fire in order to remember what it was that we forgot, recall that there is a difference between the fire that is meant but to burn and the fire which is meant to be traversed.

At this time in my own life, there is a great Fire through which I must walk, for on the other side of that Firewalk, there is the river which beckons me, which is the truth of me, which is the thing which I so very dearly desire. It is not out of my reach. It is not meant to be just handed to me, but more, to be appreciated, to be Loved, even as I simultaneously hurt from it, ache from it, want freedom from it. When we avoid the pain, we avoid the learning. I am not always pained, but it is a theme for me at the moment, to be in, be with, and essentially Be the Pain which so many people have sought to no longer have. And always, it is told to them that they must traverse the fire, must walk the Holy Path of Fire so as to have access to the clearing, healing nature of the Water of Life that is the Spirit within Who dearly begs to be seen, and known, and Loved.

Yet, first, and long before the homecoming, we must walk the Path of the few...

I Love You All
ROX

A Good Long Look...

Things that break us down make us stronger, I Promise

I am a lucky woman. I say this because everyday I have the chance to help people see through their pain to the reality that is their real self. Today I thought I might write something about a biblical guy named Job but the more I thought about it the more I knew that I had to copy and paste and use this as my blog post today.

The more that humankind goes through this shift in consciousness, the more we hear stories about long time friendships coming to a grinding halt, long time marriages somehow coming to an end. Long time anything no longer being, and it dismays us, it really does, because human beings...we hate to think that we have lost anything, but what no one really thinks about is the flip side of that perceived loss that is actually a gain, if anything, of space in our lives. We never think for a moment that that which we so love or hate right at this moment may be the opposite in effect for us one day. We don't think that one day the Love that we share will be the Love that also hurts us. We don't think that one day, the friend we could trust is also the friend that has hurt us with their truth, not about us, but about themselves.

We think that we cannot deal with something, and when we think that way, we do things to make it true. Last night I had the opportunity to share with a young woman why it is that I think her latest romance has come to an end. I know that it has to do with her growth. When things come to an end, it is not our place to try to make them live again, because if we make them live again, and namely if that thing we went through was particularly hurtful and we, over and over again, choose to deal with that same thing, we find that the hard lesson is never over with, that it will never be over with, and one day, we find out that it was us all along who did not want the Love to end, but that we also did not realize that we kept prolonging the lesson that we no longer needed to learn. I did it. You have done it. We all do it. We will all do it again. This is the nature that is being human. We want so dearly to hang on to what was that we are not willingly looking at what is, and if what is there and real and now is hurting you and making you crazy and making you cry, then really, what is it teaching us other than how to hurt more, possibly again and again, and all for one good reason...

Because we Love to be Loved. We love to be loved by one other person and to be that one other person's one and only. It is wonderful to be the center of attention and the very target of another's affections, but the first and truest love that anyone has ...well...read what I wrote to this wonderful young person about the nature of the Love that she thought would never be gone. I had to reread what I wrote and yes...get your tissues...

""You are not obligated to making her pain go away. That is why she is numbing herself. You are not dying on the inside, but a part of your life that is no longer needed is gone because the lesson is being learned now on some level. She did not break you, you pared it all down. She is not thinking right. You are never stupid for loving someone. You are not stupid because you don't want to hurt anymore.

You are not required to hurt for anyone else's cause, sweetie...not your mom or dad, not your sister, brother, cousin, best friend...no one is required or HAS TO hurt for someone else. You miss the energy that is the balance that Librans need. Yours is the ultimate sign for marriage, and guess what? Shew as just not the right one, not the right fit.

Spirit, God, Goddess...She knows what She is Doing. It is likely that you may get comfort knowing that you have gone through this hurt to avoid going through greater hurt. Let's not think of this as a loss, honey. I know that it is really hard not to, and I know...oh man do I know...the investment of time, and energy and mostly Love, but what you are about to learn now is that you are more than only this part of the Love you crave. This is not a person who has the depth of Soul that you actually Need, dear. You need a depth and an honest partner, and I am sad to tell you this truth because it breaks you a little more, but take heart in knowing that when you look at it from a stranger's eyes, and you see there what is the good in everyone, and you see that this has been the testament to your own ability to Know that you are able to Love...the evidence of this is that you are hurt and crying and more than that, you also know that it has to be this way, or else, really, you will end up in this circle, again and again.

I know the pain that you are in right now, and it is not an easy one but when you are done and you remember who you are you will not even think about this person who is hurt, and I will tell you right now that the hurt is not yours alone. Addicts do not realize that they are numbing their pain.

You are being told by Spirit through her that she has too much pain, so much that not even she can feel it. She is doing this to distance herself from her own pain because your tears and her broken promises make her look at the ugliness that is her soul.
She has no idea that she is in pain because she is too angry at everything and everyone, and this is not because of you, this is hers and hers alone.

Baby girl, you are too good for this, and ya know ya are...

You choose it, sweets....who will you feed this time? Which wolf? The one that bites or the one that protects?
Who will you save?
Her or You?
We both Know that answer...yes, honey....you're right...it's You
I Love You !!"

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I had to take a very good long look at who I am, and in this one writing I realized that the one person I always needed was me. That's right - ME. I am who makes or breaks me, and I am who controls my own wolves...be they the real or the imagined.

The only thing that any one of us needs right this moment is to Know and believe that we are all the Love that we need, that sharing that Love with one other person does not come when we want it to be there but when we are ready for it in the Soul. When things are balanced and right in the Soul... THAT is when the fun begins. And the Love can be anything...it can be a person or an animal, or it can be a career that you so dearly want to have...anything at all, it can be. The challenge is NOT waiting for it to happen, because no matter what we think, it ALWAYS happens, but we just don't know when.

The challenge is not the waiting and neither the work to get there.

The Challenge, my dears, is believing that you are worth it all...yes, even the tears - you cried for other people, right? 

Riiiiight...

I Love You All !

ROX 

Reverend Roxanne Cottell (Reverend Roxie) can be reached for Coaching Sessions, Public Speaking Engagements, readings, and the like by clicking here